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What Makes a Healthy Marriage?

Two healthy wholes is what constitutes a healthy marriage.

According to most, the key to a healthy marriage is love, commitment, honesty and trust. True. However, one of the most important aspects to a healthy marriage is a healthy sense of self as a complete and capable individual.

Successful marriages are not the union of two partial entities, but a unique new entity made of two healthy wholes. Another part of a healthy marriage is having a healthy spiritual relationship. A healthy spiritual relationship is vital for a healthy marriage.

In addition, a healthy family origin is another important component of a strong marriage. Whether for good or ill, our family origin sets a foundation of our expectations for what marriage should be. For example, if our parents were good role models in settling disagreements and attending emotional needs of family members, the new marriage will certainly benefit. For most married couples, family set many positive examples that benefit the new marriage.

Another important key factor in a healthy marriage is readiness. Both parties must be ready for a commitment. Both parties have to be ready to take the “big step.” Each person must also be mature. This is another reason why most marriages fail; one person is either immature or not ready.

Having a healthy premarital relationship is another very important factor in having a healthy marriage. It is important to have a good dating relationship before marrying your partner. Most couples, who have experienced problems in the relationship prior to marriage, will probably end in divorce.

Sometimes, people often feel pressured into marriage. Another important factor in a healthy marriage is knowing what the standards are so each person can decide to meet them. Most individual like knowing what is expected of them.

Many marriages are failing because people fail to recognize the signs of an unhealthy marriage. A healthy marriage has several signs including lack of commonality, lack of maturity and lack of compatibility. When two people are going in opposite directions, the marriage is not healthy. A marriage composed of a mature couple has an advantage over one composed of two individuals who are not mature. It is also important for couples to share the same views and values.

However, it is just as important to have opposite views in common. Valuing diversity inside the relationship is important. A healthy relationship is allowing people to be themselves; it is stepping outside of our comfort zones.

Most importantly, a healthy marriage is a well rounded one.

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  1. Sharon

    On May 6, 2008 at 12:53 pm

    Very good info on marriage. Writer touched on a lot of things people don’t seem to think about.

  2. "The Dude"

    On September 7, 2008 at 12:03 pm

    After reading your comments, I am wondering if you are still married, if so how long have you been married, or are you divorced? I am also wondering if you spelled “whole” correctly? Are you sure you aren’t referring to the other “holes”? Since you gleamed over the importance of a solid physical relationship as well, I thought you may have been talking about the other holes.

  3. angel

    On February 6, 2009 at 6:47 pm

    well i was wondering if you can me some advice.
    i’m pregnant and my husband never listen to me.
    he rather make me wait to finish my project for him
    so that he can finish playing his video games.
    he never really keeps his words. llike that one day he promise
    not to play video games too much
    and by next week, he can’t even let go of the controller.
    what should i do?

  4. angel

    On February 6, 2009 at 6:48 pm

  5. angel

    On February 6, 2009 at 6:56 pm

  6. Khalid ,Texas

    On March 25, 2009 at 10:26 pm

    being a husband and a wife is not just a game to play during your life time,but it is a clip or vise that firm on commitment, trust , honesty, and true, as well the most important aspect to your healthy marriage is a sense of self as a complete and capable individual.and the spiritual relationship of yours.

  7. Khalid ,Texas

    On March 25, 2009 at 10:30 pm

    To emial to Khalid

  8. United4LIfe

    On June 3, 2009 at 7:00 am

    I believe that marriage still works. However; in making a successful marriage it not only involves two mature, complete and compatibale individuals, but the two must believe that God must come first. We are nothing without God and outside of God there is NO success or happiness. Once my spouse and I embrace that concept and put God first in our marriage then and only then did we experience marriage in it’s fullness. I challenge any husband or wife to put God first,seek His purpose and desires, and follow the biblical principles and watch their marriage transform into a healthy, happy and successful union.

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