What Men Ought to Know to Keep Women Happy and Secured

It’s a constant chase. The beginning of a new relationship does not give men the badge to be uber-confident and relaxed. I remember a story of a friend who was courted for a week by her now-boyfriend of ten years. His promise? “Take me now and I’ll court you forever.” That is just the sweetest thing, if you ask me.

When a man is in a relationship for more than a year, admit it, he gets too relaxed and doesn’t exert too much of an effort anymore. Gone are the flowers, the thoughtful “I miss you and I’m thinking of you” messages. Gone are the surprises. This doesn’t make us women love you less, but it makes us wonder. Do you love us just the same as when we just started?

It is not an issue of mistrust or doubt but rather of security and assurance. We are as visual creatures as you are, only, we do not use this trait during sex. We see you and we ask ourselves, is he still that into me like when he was just courting me?

Men may ask, ‘What do you want me to do? Give you flowers everyday?” No. We want you to try as much as possible to maintain the level of sweetness and thoughtfulness that you showed us when you were still putting your best foot forward. That was the same man we fell in love with. A slight change is acceptable, but please don’t turn into a non-caring beast all of a sudden.

We only ask for simple things. Call us, text us, or e-mail us. Surprise us with an unexpected visit. These will show us that you are thinking of us and that we are being missed by our man. Don’t just say “i love you” as a response to our “i love you”. Be sincere and try as much as possible not to keep us guessing. Let us know where we stand in your life. Make us feel that we are in your priority list, if not on top of it.

Now tell me, tell us, is that too much to ask? We are simple creatures and not complicated like what the magazines and the TV shows tell the world. We only want to feel loved. We want to know that we are appreciated, missed and loved by the man who promised to make us happy.