What the Hell is BDSM

BDSM is an acronym which is used to describe a huge spectrum of activities and relationships. The Acronym stands for: Bondage/Domination/Sadism/Masochism and is a huge part of my life.  I am in an active D/s relationship as 24/7 submissive and my Dom is also my boyfriend. We will have been together for a year in June, and not only are we happy but we love one another.  Our relationship is a closer template of a BDSM relationship then the general public believe. I believe this is because unfortunately the topic of sex is still considered a taboo subject so it is hard to begin to find accurate information on alternative sex. This article is an attempt to correct so common misconceptions of D/S relationships by explains what the hell BDSM really is from the point of view of one of its practitioners. It is no means a guide to why people choose this life. To explain the complexities of involved in D/s relationship I will break down the acronym of BDSM and dealing with the topics of Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism separately.  At the core of a D/s relationship is the practice of domination and as the idea of BDSM rotates on the subject of domination, this will be addressed first.

The ideologies of Domination coexist with the ideology of Submission and are represented by the acronym D/s. The will to dominate, or in turn submit are ingrained personality traits, which can lead to a D/s Relationship. Domination is the use of power that a Dominate person holds over Submissive person.  This relationship has many levels but is not truly considered a D/s relationship until it affects ‘sexual’ aspect of life. Domination is often seen as a form of brutality and or slavery; this however is not true due to the consensual nature of the relationship. In any D/s relationship there are rules and limits. For an example my Dominant know s that one of the limits in our relationship is that he is not allowed to pee on me (this is sometimes referred to as water sports).. What Limits there are in a D/s relationship is unique to the people, as are their practices.  Bondage, Sadism and Masochism are most common tools for the practice of Domination.  Let’s discuss Bondage first.