What to Do After They’ve Said “It’s Over”

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She’s gone? Left you broken hearted? The reality is that you CAN‘T make her stay. As you also need to move on, here are eight things to remember:

Face reality.

Sure you may try whatever it takes to get her back, send flowers, show up at her door with star bucks, write her a song on your guitar, but none of that will work it she’s not interested. Remember that NO MEANS NO!

DON’T STALK HER!

Again, JUST IN CASE, remember that NO MEANS NO!

Do you need time?

Losing someone close to you does hurt, it takes time to heal, so don’t be afraid to deal with her loss. Many people try to run back out there and find a replacement right away to mask their hurt, or pretend that they don’t hurt. Slow down, take the time to lick those wounds. The last thing that you want to do is get into another relationship, or be with someone for the wrong reasons.

Think of yourself.

If someone that we loved very deeply hurt us, don’t you think that we should take care of ourselves? We grieve over the woman leaving us, but we neglect to give ourselves proper healing. You went through enough, the suffering, loss of sleep, pride, whatever it was, you deserved better.

Don’t trash talk about her.

You were good to her, happy together, drama free, believed in the same things, so what happened? Sometimes we don’t get it right and it’s over. Now that she’s gone, let her go with your dignity still in tact and swallow your pride. A simple, “things just didn’t work out, I wish her the best,” is the best way.

Do you know what you want in your life(outside of love)?

This is a good time for you to take an inventory of your life, to see if it’s going as you want or if you’d like to make changes. Being single is an opportunity for you to make improvements that you’d like to make, or have the time to simply accomplish something new or that you’ve been putting off.

How will you cope?

Part of healing is talking about your pain. I’d suggest that you talk to a close friend, relative or a therapist. Their is nothing wrong with sharing, in many ways it’s healing. If you would rather not talk to someone close to you, a therapist does wonders(including helping you learn more about YOU AND RELATIONSHIPS).

Starting over, again.

Life doesn’t end after your relationship does. Do things for yourself, concentrate on your life and live again. It’s not going to be easy to be apart from the one you love, especially in the beginning, but if you get OUT THERE, you’ll feel so good STARTING OVER AGAIN!

It may not seem like the pain will ever go away(it does), but try these tips to make it “somewhat” easier. Wishing you the best!