What Women “Really Mean”

The Big Secret She Isn’t Telling You

There’s a little secret that women never happen to mention when they’re describing what they want in a man.   Unfortunately, for all of us good guys who are trying to be what women want… and hoping that if we try hard enough to please women that they’ll like us… this little secret is causing us a LOT of trouble. The SECRET is that women ONLY want the things that they’re asking for from a guy who already has about 100 other qualities that they never mention.In other words, if a woman says, “I want a man who is a good communicator”, what she REALLY means is: “I want a guy who already has his life together,is interesting, unpredictable, dominant, funny, healthy, charismatic, confident, and loyal… who is ALSO a good communicator.”  The REALITY is that when a woman says one of these “I want a guy who” statements, she actually has an IDEAL guy in mind, who ALSO happens to be a good communicator. She’s NOT imagining Homer Simpson sitting on his couch reading a book on communication. The reality of this situation is that what women REALLY want is a man who makes them feel the emotional and physical response that I like to call ATTRACTION. They want a man who makes them FEEL IT. But, most women either can’t describe the things that actually make her feel ATTRACTION, or they don’t WANT to have to describe them, because they want a man who already IS those things… without having to learn them. Think about it. If you were hiring a bodyguard, would you want one that said, “Yeah, I can be a bodyguard. Just give me some time to learn…” or would you want one that already KNEW how to kick ass anytime, anywhere, without having to learn? Duh.Well, the same goes with women. They don’t WANT a guy that they have to train. If you don’t already have the UNIVERSAL FOUNDATION of what appeals to women, then no amount of changing and improving things, like your communication and sensitivity, is going to help you.

What Is A Real Man?

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of a “Real Man.”  You hear both women and men using the term. But what does it actually MEAN?  And is it important? Well, after thinking about this particular topic for a long time, I’ve come to the conclusion that it is a VERY important topic.At this point, I believe that a REAL MAN is
this “ideal” that women imagine when they’re saying “I want a guy who is sensitive.” They’re thinking of the REAL MAN, and then they’re imagining him ALSO being sensitive. There are a lot of aspects to this REAL MAN.Here are a few that are important:

• Status
• Lack of Insecurities
• Standards
• Experience
• Humor
• Unpredictability
• Leadership
• A Challenge

…and the list goes on.