When Breaking Up Is Necessary: Part 2

Am I the break up queen?  No, I guess not.  It just has been on the brain for a long time.  It has cost me a lot in creativity and love.  I know that I put unnecessary strain on my family relationships.  You see, your relationship with your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t only affect you.  It touches the ones that you are the closest to.

Quickly touching back on the Abusive Men Red Flag List on Oprah dot com, none of the red flags involved hitting.  Don’t mistake these red flags to deal with only men.  Women are known to be top notch abusers of men.  Men don’t often call the police on women because of a sense of pride.   

My family and friends noticed many things on this list and naturally asked me was he abusive.  They often felt uncomfortable around him, even if he did not say a word.  As a matter of fact, so did I.

But he/she has never laid a hand on me.

Great, will you leave when he/she does?  Will it be too late?  Are you afraid?  No answers here, just questions.  Do you think he/she would?  Has he/she ever confessed to past violence?  Why are you on part two of this article?  [Unless of course, you are an avid reader of my articles!  ]

There was never a hand laid on me either, but you know how something happens and you say, “I knew that would happen.”  I never want to get to say that in this situation.  I know that neither do you.

But I’ll hurt him/her or make him/her angry.  What if he/she hurts me back?

Hurts are a part of life.  You and I must deal with them and so must your love.  If you think that your love may retaliate, then don’t go it alone.  Have a friend or family member with you.  If you don’t have any family or friends, then there is always services.  There are many battered women’s shelters that are willing to help men too.

I don’t want to leave!

Then by all means stay.  Leave when you are ready.  I did.  I just pray that it is not to late.  This article is about being abused.  Whether physcially or mentally.