When Love Goes

The desire to be loved can stay, the desire to make love can wane with the years and in general people can love one another for as long as they think about and put in into practice. Today we know that a woman will desire to have less sex as they get older but that does not mean they do not want to be loved. Interest in having sex can be revived by talking to her spouse, interest in being loved continues if you can talk about that too.

Women like to socialize more, I am told and perhaps that is what is behind the ritual of wanting company first before getting intimate. They will get turned off much more easily then men when it comes to fulfilling a moment of intimacy with her partner. That may have to do with a decrease of cortisol and testosterone that is not only found  in men. Women have a smaller amount and a loss of that would significantly alter their behaviour to wanting to lie in bed rather than return affection or being in a love making mood.

When the desire for love making goes the spouse can understand that all is not lost; interest in being physically intimate can be reawakened but one would have to accept a new reality. Growing older means a person should not expect to be just as stimulated as he was when he was younger. This goes for both men and women. One reason is biological; there  is a decreased blood flow to the person’s private parts and this can occur in patients with diabetes which is known to affect the peripheral circulatory system in older people. Another reason is psychological; many disappointments acquired in life can put a damper on wanting to take new risks that a new lover may insist on.