Where There is Love, There is a Way

When I was in my teens there lived a couple in my neighborhood named Saritha and Ramesh aged 35 and 38. Though they lived since years together, I always felt never understood each other and were always looked unsatisfied and unhappy. Whenever I visited their house I used to bring back negative thoughts with me as she always used to talk negatively about their relationship and seems to be depressed with her life. Saritha was well educated and a highly ambitions lady and had many dreams to fulfill in life and of course dreamt to marry a very dynamic person. But unfortunately Ramesh was quite opposite of what she thought. He was bit timid, calculated and a very normal person but totally happy and satisfied with what he has and for what he had achieved till now and wants to sustain the same in life. He doesn’t like to take risks and struggle hard on anything and believed they were leading a good life socially and financially.

Being an ambitious lady Saritha always liked to lead a grand life and wants to try new things which Ramesh never encouraged. The attitude of Ramesh used to make Saritha frustrated and that used to reflect on every thing he does. Seeing Saritha all the time Irritated Ramesh also used to get upset often. Its true, we often transfer our anger, fears and thoughts unknowingly to the people whom we are close to. Both used to have major arguments and fights for no reason. Slowly both started developing negative feelings for one another. The couple always used to crib about their marriage for making such a blunder in choosing the partner. In later stages they started to really hate each other and god knows what had happened to them later. I always used to pity them and think this is what is the life is. We have to give up what we like if we are not lucky enough to get the like minded partner. This was my understanding at that point of time.

Later when years passed I got married, had kids and after stayed in a relationship for years now when I go back and think about them, I realize that there was no major problem and nothing was seriously wrong with them. All I feel about those problems were nothing but just their opinion differences. Most of them could have been sorted out cleanly if they had taken time and worked out systematically. Both never expressed nor were open to each other. They always tried to win their point over each other rather solving the problem. Instead of cribbing about life they should have thought that everyone gets a chance to live once and lets get the best out of it. If Saritha wanted best out of Ramesh she should have given what is best for him. At the same time Ramesh lived life like how he wanted but never for Saritha and was least bothered to understand her expectations and feelings. In fact both always tried to live for themselves rather than to live together.