Who’s in Charge?

REALLY true , we should take charge and try to make it perfact

Oddly enought this seems to be a trap that a lot of us fall into for the sake of love. I’ve fallen into this trap before myself. Thanks for the encouragement to look pass the stupidity and focus on a healthier you by making wiser choices. I enjoy your writing style completely because of your variety of topics shared with a feeling of honesty and unpretentiousness…I feel the visualization of your words and I’m truly a fan. I hope your daughter appreciates the love of a caring mother while she still has one. An emotional filled story that was a pleasure to read!

Atanacio my friend…..take all the time you need. Ha ha ha.

Miss T…great question…who is in charge…I think you summed it all up very well “remember you are in charge of you” if more people realized and observed that general rule of decency our society wouldbe much different that what we find now. Thanks.

Miss T…great question…who is in charge…I think you summed it all up very well \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”remember you are in charge of you\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\” if more people realized and observed that general rule of decency our society wouldbe much different that what we find now. Thanks.

good post…nicely expressed

You are right you are in charge of you & lots of the men i used to date even my fiance trys to say you want to be the man in the relation ship I just stand my ground & don’t accept any type of treatment. Great write

I couldn’t agree with your more. You lose far too much by not speaking up. Couples don’t have to agree on everything to be happy.

I guess we all go through this blind phase of love when we make stupid decisions wherein, in the end, we ourselves get hurt. Then we learn, and realize, and with the remaining self respect that is left, we take charge of our lives. It is a good thing that you were able to survive and lift your head high through all these. Some take a longer time to realize they need to come out of the pit.
Thanks for sharing.

There should be mutual understanding so that the relationship becomes a two sided love affair. Thanks for sharing.

You’re right! I think we’re a charge of ourselves as long as what we did didn’t contribute to a contrary behaviour.

I am so glad you posted this. The ‘who is in charge’ can get tricky if we are not careful. It should not, but it can.

very well put and said.
relationships are difficult as it is
with out added complications.
There is a time to be shhhh
and a time to speak up,picking that time is so hard.

I decided to take a look and I was pleasantly surprised.
your conversational tone is very refreshing.

most important thing is to be true to yourself – good work!

i like this ! good work!

I think sometimes there is fear that we might lose something precious to us and for that reason we give up power to our “partner” rather than take charge of some decisions. I think if we fear so much to lose our loved ones, that our relationship still needs more growth… I think it is a stage, but one that with a healthy relationship will be grown through and not stuck in.

There might be a division of labour and each doing what is their strength, but their should be equality and not fear driving the decisions. No fear of loss. But gifts of love and sharing and pairing.

The men wear the pants but the women control the zipper.. Yes, I do agree that men want to be in control, but we should definitely not accept the submissive role. We are in 2010 already and women must stand up for what they believe. Excellent article and well-written my friend. If the guy doesn’t like it, then Next….Too many weak-minded women putting up with guys treating them like crap. Glad you addressed this article.

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This applies to all kinds of relationships-even those at work. How often do people put up with crap with those who are ‘in charge’, when if they had spoken up for themselves, they would have gotten a better deal? Part of the problem is that people are taught to not express their feelings on things that affect them, for the sake of keeping the peace.

good ideas. i agree with you

Interesting post…

Does that make sense? I mean, like some people look at two lovers as halves and they’re joined as one…..But the two halves still have to be complete or you have like 3/4 or less.

I’ve always learned that you have to be alright with yourself before you can be alright for the world and your signifigant other. Too many people bend or toss out their moral compass just to be in a relationship. I’ve made this mistake myself. Great reflective piece. Very revealing! Great work!

So often we want to change the very person that we fall in love with trying to force them to become our ideal person when the reality is, we are who we are and they whom they are. Once one gives up control of their life to someone else, it is so hard to get it back, but with time and repetition, we can get it back. Thank you Authoress Terry Lyle. I have learned so much from your expressions. Keep on keeping on as I know you will.