Why Do People Cheat in Relationships?

Why do some people cheat in relationships?  As in having affairs outside and stuff like that.  This is something that have been happening even centuries before and yet, there has been no direct explanation for the major reason.  If one is to blame on looks, some couples are both handsome and beautiful and they cheat one another too.  It is a complex explanation, for all I know.  

There are people around us whom we notice that they are happy and seemingly to be having an everlasting relationship but in the end, we hear stories like one of them cheats and the other is devastated.  Question is, should second chances be given when you find out that your partner has cheated?  Is there a fine line there.  Personally, I have been cheated at in relationships before and of course, the feeling was not pleasant at all.  It simply hurts to be cheated but let’s talk about those that hurt people.  What are they thinking really, when they do that?  Don’t they care at all for the feelings of the partner’s hearts that they are going to break or have already?  I have read somewhere that subconsciously , the cheaters do not realize that they are hurting others and they care nothing but only for what they seek or need.  Like a lonely husband being neglected by the wife, he goes on to look for a companion out there and subsequently cheating on the wife.  Wife finds out and is hurting but the husband doesn’t see it that way because he feels that he has been neglected long enough.  That is the kind of situation and there can be others too.

There is a saying that we shouldn’t interfere in others relationship and marriage, especially.  I think that is true.  We can never know what goes on behind closed doors.  Some people cheat and they count that as a justification for the bad deed of their partners.  On another situation, for instance, you see a very doting and lovely wife or girlfriend or fiancee, whichever, and the philandering husband, boyfriend or fiance just cannot keep his eyes to himself and it can also be a philandering wife, girlfriend and fiancee.  They cannot keep their eyes to themselves, or rather, their hearts intact and have to go around cheating their partners and have this cheating radar on top of them all the time.  Kind of sad to think about it.  My friend used to say, why can’t the cheaters be together and the innocents together in that order?  That certainly got me into thinking.   

Another aspect to think is that we see some cheaters and they are repeatedly been given chances to so called continue with their bad deeds.  Why are they been given 3rd or 4th chances and many more?  Is there a power foothold or something?  Why are they not being dumped after that?  We hear people say that so and so is stupid for remaining with that guy or that lady and they should have strike out on their own, so hence and so forth.  There are just so many reasons behind closed doors that we do not know for sure.  In a marriage situation, sometimes the cheater is being given more than one chance because of the children that they share together, or that the victim’s spouse or partner is financially dependent on the cheater or some sort.  These factors combined, with others make it a valid reason for why the cheater is not punished metaphorically for her or his deeds.  

The main question on why some people cheat in relationships will always be that golden question that they themselves know the answer to and realizing their mistakes but without having the will to change or simply refusing to.  There are cases whereby those that have cheated and being left by their partners, they totally become better persons after that and in the long run, realizing how wrong they have been.  Is it sheer luck to end up with the one whom cheats?  Some call it luck while others just feel that they have chosen the bad partners that they fail to see.  The way I see it, cheaters have their own cocooned of reasons or linings for why they decide to cheat and remain to.  They blame circumstances that they are like being stuck in a rut, in a loveless marriage, or the wife and husband is not going to work out on their already dying marriage and many more.  I’m not an expert or a pro in this cheater thing, but I would say that the first method that couples in this problem should try is to talk to each other and be as honest as possible and if there are no more feelings for one another, to project it and voice out, rather than playing the meek and committing cheating deeds behind the others back.  Talking and confessing is the best and after that, to decide on the course of action whether to save the relationship or not.  It is pretty much the work of 2 individuals.