Comments on: Why Do People Get Married?

By: Freedom

Freedom — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:00:25 +0000

“Nobody wants to return to an empty home,” – Are you kidding me!? I love it.

I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’ve been in relationships where I’ve lived together but the bottom line is I love my freedom much more. Living with someone is very stressful and you can never truly relax.

People in unhappy marriages look “older and more worn out”.

I am in my 30’s and still feel and look in my 20’s. I am constantly asked for ID when out.

Marriage is not for me. I am convinced happy people will live longer.

If not, it just seems you live longer when you are married!

By: Gino Nathaniel

Gino Nathaniel — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 18:14:55 +0000

Great topic and replies. Was married 12 years and she walked out when i was ‘no longer fun’ and didn’t ‘make her happy’. Never could imagine divorce could happen. oh–my wife gained 75+ lbs during marriage and once married–i never saw a skirt or dress again–not to mention lingerie…. and sex once in a blue moon–and even though i was a good lover–she was frigid!

Fast forward three years into singleness. lonely nights yes. but even this self proclaimed unattractive men easily finds dates—–five women that were quite attractive emailed me today on a dating site. i do enjoy my freedom. i now have a healthy savings account for my ‘hobbies’—and i’ve progressed leaps and bounds in my arts career. not bad for a single guy whose 43. maybe i’ll get married–onl if i find my best friend that i want to grow old with. otherwise i’ll stay single and content.

And by the way–there truly is someone for everybody. hint: be 100% honest in your dating profile and spill those guts–you will find someone in your league.

By: Tom

Tom — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 03:04:02 +0000

I love living alone, I like dating. I never liked the idea of marriage, not because of the only having sex with one person, just having you life intertwined with another, sharing you whole life seems odd to me. Always has since I can remember. I value my friendships, and like the layer of privacy that goes with them. They don’t hassle you, it is about good times, only if something if really self destructive do they intervene. From a very early age I never got why people married, even my folks, they got along, I just never got why anyone would want to give up some much of themselves to a single person. I can see doing it for country, or a career one works in, they are so many more important things people can use their time and energy for other than children or family.

Also a certain amount of risk makes you feel alive, it is part of life. I saw my grandparents die of cancer, a long drawn out death, painful and slow, it is one both sides of my family, all my uncles and aunts and blood relatives who are over middle age have this, so I say there are things worse than a slightly longer life. People in my family in general don’t make it past there mid 60s. They talked about how they would rather be on vacation somewhere than in a bed, both were active until then.

I love dating, and dating new people. If you ask me falling in love is so much better than being in love. I love getting to know the person. I keep up close friendships (fully platonic) with many of my ex-girl friends, and value that. I love breaks in between relationships, they give you time to think. Often I vacation in somewhat dangerous places, or have hobbies that are not without risk (mountaineering, sailing, wilderness hiking, bow hunting, long distance swimming), things that a family man ought not to do. I love my one bedroom apartment, late night take out, cocktail parties, bar hoping, baseball games. Being single has its merits, I know plenty of married people much more unhappy (most of my married friends are). I love my life, I love being single, there is no woman I would give this all up for. I have great support from friends and colleagues, and have found great balance in my life. In short maybe marriage is not the answer. Just do what your heart tells you and makes you happy, either way life can be great.

By: Awesometobeone

Awesometobeone — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 01:34:45 +0000

I am observing tension when two come together and the two too accept that………what it takes to be original??? Do whatever makes you happy than to follow a band wagon.

By: Jessie Leeon Hardin Jr.

Jessie Leeon Hardin Jr. — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 01:33:19 +0000

This girl Mandy told me we was going to be together forever and that she will love me until the day we die. Well guess what she lied to me i was with this girl for 2 years on and off she said we was going to get married so on our supposed to be engagement i went out and got her an anniversary gift it was a pair of earings. We were engaged before but then she cheated on me several times with several of my friends i even lost friends because of her. She puts it out there like she loved me but love was just a game to her.She tells me she loves me but used me and behind my back she was talking to brad my friend behind my back on the phone and internet by yahoo and myspace. I thought she was the one for me but in the end she proved to be an unfaithful pathological immature liar. And now i live with brad and me and him get along just fine she done us both wrong. And to answer brads comment i almost married that crazy psycho who needs her medicine she has a mind of a child and dont need to even think about kids or getting married.
i am 20
no kids
needs to find a better girl
im one of the very few good guys out there
waiting on that special someone

By: Brad

Brad — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 23:24:24 +0000

update to the Mandy posting from a little over a month ago. She left me for a crack head at a crack house. Goes to show you that ppl aren’t always what they make themselves out to be.

But anyways, I know this post is a little off topic but I felt I had to post it anyways.

This isn’t the first time this has happened. Imagine if I would have actually gotten married to this girl. What an idiot I would have been…

By: kathryn Matheny

kathryn Matheny — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 10:20:59 +0000

there are chrstians out there who dont care about ones well being so it seems, they think god wants certain poeple to be alone, to be single do devote their whole time to god – fine for them, not for me!!!! i single, been single my whole life – and there are some who think i can actually do something about it – ok poeple i can try to do something about it but there are factors outside of my control that i can do nothing about – not everyone who is single is chosing to be single – i cant possibly be the only one on this planet who is single but doenst choose to be single- i am not gorgeous, i am fat, and no not to overeating – to most of my prior meds having weight gain as a major side affect- thats cause not laming blame

i dont have the option of getting married
its not that simple
actually its not simple at all
there is no way i can find another person who will voluntary be with me and there are annoying people who take the opposing side of me regardless saying well its not their fault
ok its my fault? as if
actually its their fault – the annoying ones
for being annyoing and taking the side of a hypothetcal
“person”

there seems to be a choice being made in me being single
however ITS NOT MY CHOICE

one more thing
there are people saying we always have a choice(um no )
they might as well say hello to cinderally in fairy tale land

thanks

By: Katt

Katt — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 11:29:38 +0000

I am a 31-year-old female in a 2-year-relationship with a 36-year-old man who proposed to me 2-weeks into our courtship. I said let’s take things slow and give it a year at least. A year became 2 years.

I don’t even know if I want to get married to him or my reason for wanting to get married to him, except for the fact that

(a) almost 95% of the people that I know of, my schoolmates, ex-boyfriends, current and former colleagues, friends are married. ( Peer, environmental and society-related pressure)..

{ Even my best buddy has just made it official. The extremely overweight guy that I know has also joined the club. The guy that I’ve known for 10 years, whom to me looks like an emotionless fella uncapable of a relationship is suddenly in a relationship with a girl in view of marriage. That promiscuous girl I know who is always in an on/off relationship with her boyfriend has just gone on an impromptu marriage registration. Even those that I thought are not gonna get hitched, well apparently they’ve procreated and now tiny tots graced their lives… }

and (b) I am tired to start another relationship. My best buddy said ( and I think it has some truth in it ) — the longer you wait, you won’t get the creamer.

So there you have it — 2 reasons: Not wanting to be left-out, too tired to go through it all again.

Katt

By: blondie

blondie — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 20:32:33 +0000

Through all the years of knowing many, many married people, only 3 couples were happy. In all 3 instances, the husbands died. All other’s wished they were single again. I’m single and would like a male companion but not marriage.

By: mandy

mandy — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 16:11:29 +0000

I think that you should always go with your heart because it will never lie to you and when you do find that person you want to spend the rest of your life with you will know.I have thought i was in love so many times but i found out that it was puppy love and there is only one person out there for me and i am not scared to say his name because i love him all my heart and his name is brad. He means so much to me and he is the only one that makes my heart beat fast and slow at the same time and I love that about him. I guess all I am trying to say is to follow your heart.