Why “Happily Married” People Envy Singles

Many people are desperate to marry and they would marry anybody, who is willing to become their spouse (or at least is not showing enough resistance and breaks free). Marriage is regarded as a life belt – and very often it is just that. However, it is very common that right after you marry your victim, family turmoil starts.

This is hardly surprising and many people will take it gladly because for them even an unhappy marriage is more than nothing. On the other hand, the most logical thing one will do in such an unfortunate situation is to try to end the unhappy relationship. However, this is not that easy.

Ending an Unhappy Marriage Isn’t Easy

Ending an unhappy marriage can be a very challenging task, especially when kids and property are involved. There are many invisible chains that tie the partners to each other and breaking these chains is neither easy, nor cheap. You are stuck in an unhappy relationship but the doors are locked, the windows are high and you can’t escape.

It is true that many people are strong enough and have the initiative to break free from an unhappy marriage but for the majority of unhappy couples the reality is different. They simply hate each other and are willing to break free but they can’t. What is more, they have to pretend they are sooooo in love with each other.

For natural born actors, pretending to be happily married can be easy. It could even be convincing for by-standers. But the bitter taste stays and it is just a step to the moment when you start envying everybody else, who is not in the same boat as you. Happily married couples (of the real type) and singles are two targets of your envy, or even hate, because they have what you will never have, at least in your present relationship – love and freedom.

Fear of Being Single

While it makes no sense to ask the question: “Why aren’t you happily married since you want it so much?”, asking the question: “Why don’t you leave your partner and become single and free?” makes more sense. The answer to the first question is obvious – a happy marriage takes two people who are in love with each other, not two individuals who are tied to one another.

The answer to the second question is more difficult. Since it is up to you and you alone to decide whether you stay in the unhappy marriage or more forward, it is strange that you stay in your miserable relationship. However, as I have already explained, ending an unhappy relationship is not that easy and for many people it is not possible at all. So, if you are single and you are worrying why your “happily married” friends envy you so much, now you know: because you have something they will never have!