Why Inter-Personal Problems Should be Effectively Managed
Inter-personal problems have the potential of becoming very big conflicts that can affect basic human relations between people. They should be very effectively managed, to ensure that they do not cause stress in people, and lead to very undesirable consequences.
Most inter-personal conflicts arise when either of the two persons has a very small difference of opinion which is sometimes not even expressed or discussed properly. For example, if a husband does not enquire about his wife’s health when he returns home after a very tiring day’s work, it is taken very seriously by the wife. The husband might have been thinking about some office problem, and would have anyway enquired a great deal about his wife’s health after a while. However, the wife would have expected that he ask about her health the moment he entered the house.
This difference in perception immediately leads to indifferent behavior on the part of the wife, which in turn, would irritate the husband leading to arguments. In this case, the wife should have allowed things to take its own shape, and then express her disappointment in a very calm way. Normally, men would realise their mistake if the woman takes on the responsibility of gently pointing out mistakes. The whole problem can be amicably solved.
Similarly, it is quite possible for either of the parents to have serious differences of opinion on matters related to the careers of their children. In fact, in India, this is a very serious problem. Either of the parents is not educated well, and believe in the success stories of a few people around them, without seriously pondering whether their child has the talent to study the particular course leading to the career concerned.
For example, in today’s context, Information Technology is a good career in India. Hence, many parents needlessly push their children into this career, even when they have a natural talent and liking for careers in media, for example. The children lead meaningless lives, since their heart and soul is elsewhere — they have been denied the opportunity of studing the course of their own will.
Such inter-personal problems can be easily solved, if only there is a great deal of communication between either the father and the child or between the mother and the child. If the son or daughter is able to decide for himself or herself, what she could do on his or her own, a healthy dialogue can result in very desirable outcomes. Some schools in India have done the right thing — they have appointed professionally trained counselors to tackle such inter-personal problems that happen between parents and children, and help them to sort out such problems in a very amicable manner. In the government schools, this is yet to happen, but the awareness of allowing children to do whatever they like to make a good career is now far better than ever before.
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