Why Jamaican Men Hate Cerebral Women
by Many Jamaican men love a brilliant women but cannot handle the psychology that an intelligent woman brings to the table.
I had assumed that the archaic mindset and perceptions towards women that had plagued previous epochs were buried with the passing of time but I was wrong. Many scholastic and successful women can attest to the premise that when a woman exudes too much confidence and savant, a Jamaican man runs. Franklyn I find such behaviours towards accomplished women as irreverent, primitive and incoherent. I cannot comprehend why in this data based era and technology operated world, why a man would not want an educated, intellectual and business savvy spouse.
Yes I can hear many cadre men disagreeing with my thesis but before I precipitate into the meat of the matter I must establish the difference between a qualified, certified and literate(QCT)female opposed to an educated ,cerebral and savant (ECS)woman. An intellectual and analytical person will quickly support me when I state that most of our academias are only certified and qualified. They exhibit the same behavioural characteristic of a vacuous individual and is only their occupation, status and artifacts that distinguish them from the illiterate man on the streets (a topic to be addresses in the future). Yes we have a lot of those QCT women n Jamaica, you see them in the banks and other employs, with faces made up like a porcelain doll, conceited glares and perceived cadre postures that cause some of us to cringe and cower under their stares or in their presence(not me, of course). Many of these women have degrees and credentials behind their names but are not philosophical, pragmatic and rational. Frankly they are superficially attracted with no value and substance whatsoever and unfortunately that’s how most Jamaican men like them.
A Jamaican man misconstrue the debatable and reasoned discussion of a woman as being nagging and would rather have a relationship with a puppet that does what he says and only question his actions and misdemeanors’ when he permits her to. He purports that a woman who questions his actions and disputes his flimsy excuse and demerits is crossing the gender lines, which is in his chauvinist idiom, she is ‘behaving like she is the man’. Many will quickly remind the highbrow female that no woman behaves the way she does and her conduct is ‘insubordinate’ (as if I am a child) and threatens to end the relationship if she does not discard her investigative and inquisitive manner. Many men claim that god had ordained for a woman to be docile to her man but I never read any where that he stated that women should be mute, dumb and elementary.
Many men love an educated woman but cannot deal with the psychology and independence that comes with an educated sister. Ladies if you want to stay single for a long time; simply have a comprehensive knowledge of what a relationship is about and what YOU need out of a partnership! Furthermore if from the first date a man gets the impression that you are sagacious (than him!) do not expect a call from him or another date invitation. Such admirable traits are considered defects in thought process by many Jamaican men.
Matter a fact, I was told that I would be a spinster my entire life because of what males (and sadly a good proportion of women) perceived as extremely high and quixotic standards such as equality of detective instincts and opinions. Moreover it has been substantiated that a Jamaica man will run if you act smarter that a carrot; that is if you are aware that your sole purpose in life is not to grow, feed and reproduce in tandem with weather patterns.
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Post Commentkina
On October 19, 2008 at 5:46 pm
I totally agree with you! I must say, that was one of the most profound entries I have had the pleasure to read on the net in quite along while. Thank You!
Beautiful Mind
On October 20, 2008 at 11:32 pm
I also agree that this article is quite interesting. I am an American woman who has been dating a Jamaican man for about a year now and I do see the traits. However, I am blessed to have a young man who is mature enough to talk about his faults along with mine and resolve our dissagreements. He too had a problem when I would ask him about some of his behavioral characteristics. I am still on alert with this young man but he seems to have a good head on his shoulders. I believe if you have someone who is willing to work at a relationship and make sacrafices and compromise then that is beautiful.
Getting on the elaborate minds of sista’s…..We are very creative, we love hard, we have a demand for understanding and wisdom, we search for purpose and strive to fulfill our calling. Some brothers and sista’s are not at that level of thinking. But it is soooo very good to know that there are some of us who embrace life and refuse to accept junk. Who ever you are CRYSTALAID, I hope that you continue to prosper in life and continue to be and flourish as the leader you are. God Bless
Green Tee
On February 9, 2009 at 7:04 am
Your article is well written, insightful and on point. I appreciate you so much for writing this. This is what I’ve experience being married to my Jamaican husband. All I can say is WOW! As a result of being married to him for over 5 years, I am now considering separation because of his lack of accountability for his actions. I have become a woman whose self-esteem has been diminished by her husband’s tyrant behavior and deplorable attitude towards validating feelings. We have not been able to get through some really difficult experience in our relationship because he refuses to acknowledge his ill willed behavior. This relationship is very difficult and I don’t see a content resolution for it except to dissolve it. Thanks for you words I will share this with other woman I know who are in relationships with Jamaican men.
ninjamind
On April 15, 2009 at 2:06 pm
I read your article with a great sense of relief. I recently returned to jamaica after nearly twenty years abroad. I will cut to the core – i am stunned, almost to the point of irreversable brain damage as regards our men. Too, the low expectations and quasi beauty flaunted as elegance and what else have you on the part of the women.
I thought \’it was me\’ , – old male friends, married ,prevailing as trusted family friends, and really they said not in so many words:
\’ i am here to date you!\”
Their attitude towards this was take what you get and \’me wi soo\’ call yuh\”.Dont ask questions as those will be answered when \’mi call yuh back \’
They appear very comfortable in their attempts to cheat on their wives. They attempt to flow into your life with the ease of drinking water.
Single women, lets keep away from these predators…imagine if you were \”de wife\”
goodness! Take heart Green Tea! I have seen them operate!
My take: me wi soo\’ gawn back! me caan tek dem!
EXCELLENT WORK CHRYSTALLAID
caribbeanpride
On May 14, 2009 at 10:48 am
I am a caribbean guy who was raised party in England and partyly in the USA. My mom is from Jamaica and my dad is from Trinidad. I think that the comments made on here are total rubbish and I think it is unfair and very narrow minded to put all or most jamaican men in one class. I consider myself jamaican and I do not have these negative qualities that everyone is talking about. For one thing, its depends on the way the man was raised and what his individual values are. People need to stop stereo-typing and putting everyone in the same category. I have been with many women and treat all of them with the upmost respect and dignity, and almost all of the jamaican men in my family do the same, so stop with insults and take each person as an individual and not a representation of the entire male jamaican population. Thank you.
caribbeanpride
On May 14, 2009 at 10:53 am
excuse my spelling in my last comments…” I tink ah was jus’ so vex when mi hear all deh rubbish bout jamaican men dat ah jus’ type real fast ” but yeh, go sum weh wit all dem rubbish comments bout weeee ” lol
CRYSTALAID
On May 23, 2009 at 1:22 pm
TANK U AL FOR READING MY ARTICLES AND THAT MAN THAT CALLED MY ARTICLE AN RUBBISH UR DIATRIBE IS NOT SUFFICIENT TO VALIDATE WAT I JUST WROTE. I BELIEVE THAT MAJORITY SPEAKS! LOL
Robby
On May 24, 2009 at 12:36 am
I love it baby. This is why i love you !
tyrese
On May 24, 2009 at 9:58 am
very intelligent. i can bet that u are a womamn! i can hear the females ranting and giving you points for this harangue of men! but honey obviously u have been associating with th =e wrong kind of brothers. i tink women like ur self are normallt attracted to teh worng kind of men and thats why you are always getting hurt. i sense a lot of hurt and disappointment in your writings crystal. dnt worry the right man is out there for u honey! keep doin what you are good at and if you continue like this you may well begin writing books on relationships!
stay sweet and intelligent
tyrese aka husbandmaterial
oniel
On May 25, 2009 at 9:40 pm
miss evans u have gone too far this time! u need to understand that u cannot use ur experiences with a few boyz( they could never be men) to generalize the behaviour of an entire island of men. i tink that as my fren that u are friending the wrong kind of men. i love an inttelligent women and i admire women that are brilliant and independent. i beleive that u r associating iwth a few boyz who are just acting like big men but them a pickney! u need to leave that cacoon of urs and meet some real men who will putu on a pedestial and worship that sweet self of urs! so please dnt use ur a couple bad guys to judge us all! plzzzzzz
serious reviews thsi need serious reviews!
shellian
On May 26, 2009 at 10:46 pm
i must say that i admire miss evans for coming out and firmly saying wat is infact true about our culture. something that we have tried to hide. wat crystal wrote is nit just for jamaican men as it affects all cultures. men are intimidated by an intelligent independent sisiter. whereevre you are miss evans. ilook forward to reading more of your articles. you should consider writing books because you are that good!
Miss B.
On June 9, 2009 at 11:40 am
This is such an interesting and well written piece. I’m an American and my husband is a Jamaican and many times he will get bothered because I am debating a principle with him. He doesn’t seem understand that I agree with his point of view many times but would like to juxastopose the argument just to understand the rationale from a different perspective. He thinks I’m being difficult when really, I merely engaging in an intellectual conversation. And, I loved the point you made about the QCT women because it is one think to have gotten the credentials (ie. an education)just to be able to getter a better paycheck than it is to have because you wanted to have a comfortable life AND expand your mind. Analytical women and QCTs at first glance appear very similar to a Jamaican but in reality their whole philosphy and approach to life is very different. Tension arises when a Jamaican realizes that this analytical women is not a modernized and educated empty shell.
Shelly Belly
On June 17, 2009 at 9:34 am
Jamaican men hate (or at least constantly fight with) smart women because they are ALWAYS hustling, making links and cheating (to survive) and don’t want to get found out. They hate to be questioned and figured out. They like sweet, kind, dumb women so they don’t have to worry about the womam cheating while they have multiple girlfriends and even a baby mama on the side. They especailly like generous, soft hearted women that will feel sorry for them, pimp them and their cars out, then marry them as a meal ticket of the country.
jayan
On June 21, 2009 at 11:29 am
i really admire the work of this writer and i beleive that this is one of her greatest pieces. jamaican men are the lowest men in the universe. i will never advice a woman to have a relationship with men of this etnicity. they are the worst dogs. i am jamaican and currently married to an american. i want nothing to do with men of my background!
CRYSTAL EVANS
On August 3, 2009 at 6:52 pm
thanks for your comments and keep supporting my forums and articles they mean the world to me
Kittyonaleash
On August 18, 2009 at 11:53 am
I found this book recently and I thought I would recommend it because the author actually did some research on Jamaican Men. It’s on Amazon, but there is a better price at lulu.com. The title is Masculine Gender Role Stress and Anger In Jamaican Men By Kaycie-Ann Lynch
olivia
On August 19, 2009 at 11:41 am
Hey, you made me rethink going back to that illiterate brother who pretends his eye sight is horrible when he is not up to speed with the read.
Many thanks, the love etc was nice but I bet like many Jamican men, he shares it with a few other women.
You made me realise he is just a boy from the hood who won’t upgrade.Many thanks.
Lloyd
On September 29, 2009 at 1:44 pm
most a man are intimidated by another persons possessmore intelligent then they have. intelligence is a form of power, men like to hold power. a wise man should learn to leverage to power of a intelligent woman while giving her the respect she deserve, and hopfully some of her power/intelligence will rob off on him, me personal i love intelligent women , they can turn a man on, by using more then just their bodies-mind power babie
Lloyd
On September 29, 2009 at 3:10 pm
Girls Check this out by anonymousmale1 their are some really insiteful points to have a think about…
http://www.anonymousmale1.wordpress.com/2009/09/26/10-things-that-women-should-never-allow-any-man-to-talk-them-into/
james
On November 28, 2009 at 3:44 pm
good one again miss evans
yall should check out
jamaican men money and relationship
jamaican men and double standards
what jamaican men look for in a woman
Nikki
On March 22, 2010 at 7:06 pm
omg thank you I thought i was going crazy!!!!!!! You are so right!
Shilonga
On August 25, 2010 at 8:11 am
good written piecce of art. it sad for all men-kind to find it out like that. i am an Afriacan man, given my backgrounds. there is nothing wrong for a woman to be intellegent and wise, but when she close the line and start acting” i know it all in the man face” things might fall out places. same sediment goes to a parent would feel when being comfronted by a more intellegent son/daughter. women must be careful with this gift and find proper time and register to comfront their opposite sex with it. least population of men out there are intellegent, smart and wise, women are ought to know that. lacking such gifts make them less gentlemen, culture tought men to uphold some sense and sort of superiority over women. so most men would do, act, behave toward living up to such expectations. women just have to leave with that, there can be only one boss, whether studipy or clever. if i am out of the point, bear with me. Africa, Namibia.
Shilongo
On August 25, 2010 at 8:12 am
good written piecce of art. it sad for all men-kind to find it out like that. i am an Afriacan man, given my backgrounds. there is nothing wrong for a woman to be intellegent and wise, but when she close the line and start acting\’\’ i know it all in the man face\’\’ things might fall out places. same sediment goes to a parent would feel when being comfronted by a more intellegent son/daughter. women must be careful with this gift and find proper time and register to comfront their opposite sex with it. least population of men out there are intellegent, smart and wise, women are ought to know that. lacking such gifts make them less gentlemen, culture tought men to uphold some sense and sort of superiority over women. so most men would do, act, behave toward living up to such expectations. women just have to leave with that, there can be only one boss, whether studipy or clever. if i am out of the point, bear with me. Africa, Namibia.
Triniwife
On October 18, 2010 at 5:10 pm
In my opinion, you didn’t really make a valid point here. You just sounded like you wanted a place to vent your bitterness toward Jamaican men. All I got from this was your opinion. There is no data, no research, there are no citations, nor are there any interviews on which to base your findings. I am with Caribbeanpride, I believe you have lumped all Jamaican men into one category, and to me that just seems unfair. There are men all over the world who are raised to see women as objects, we have all encountered them from time to time. There are also men who are raised to treat women fairly and with respect. In either case, they are men, not just Jamaican men, but men. People are people no matter where they are from and some people happen to adopt the wrong attitude.
It just seems to me that labeling the women who choose to only educate themselves to a certain point and sit in the banks is the same thing that you are complaining that these Jamaican men do to you if you show intelligence. Labels are labels no matter what level of life we believe we are on. Personally I do not think it is ok for men to see women as only objects who should stay quiet and live to serve them, but I believe your opinion should be presented as just that, an opinion. When you say “all” or “many” when speaking of a group of people that is a very sweeping statement that needs to be backed up by data, or you need to let the reader know that is your thought, or these have been your experiences.
I am glad that you are speaking out on behalf of intelligent women and the treatment they often get from insecure men. I just think that when intelligent women speak out on an issue we need to be a voice that leads not another opinion. Let your voice be heard, but let it have a purpose, a positive purpose.