Why November and December is a Bad Time to Try Online Dating
If you are feeling lonely this holiday season and think that you might like to try online dating in the hope of finding a holiday companion then think again.
If you are thinking about joining a dating site and looking for love or companionship keep in mind that this time of year is the worst time of year to be joining a dating site.
The months of November and December can be a very lonely and depressing time for those who are single and living alone. The big family holidays combined with the on set of winter and the slowing down of our summer time activities only add to our feelings of loneliness. No one really wants to be alone over the holidays, and therefore a dating site may seem like a perfect solution.
The problem is these sites may actually do you more harm than good. While there are many success stories in the on line dating world, there are far more people who find on line dating a fast track to disappointment. Even people who eventually found wonderful relationships via the Internet, had their share of failures as well.
If you are already feeling lonely over the upcoming holidays being rejected will only compound those feelings.
The best way to combat the loneliness of the holidays is too get involved and don’t be alone. There are all sorts of things you can do that will allow you to share the holiday in great company but will also let your see how very lucky you are.
Serving dinner at a homeless shelter, or offering to visit people in a nursing home on Thanksgiving and Christmas will not only allow you to share the holiday with other people, but give you a sense of doing something worthwhile. The people you will share your day with will really be happy to have you with them and you might even make a few new friends.
If community services is really not something that you enjoy, then why not invite other single people you know who will also be alone for the holidays to share a meal or an afternoon with you. Chances are they will jump at the chance for company and you all just might end up having the time of your lives.
Then if after the new year you still want to consider joining a dating site go right ahead. You’ll be able to do so without feeling quite so alone and this will allow you to make wiser choices on who you might want to meet and date.
Being successful at on line dating is as much about timing as it is about anything else.
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cutedrishti8
On November 15, 2009 at 11:43 am
Nice information..
chitragopi
On November 15, 2009 at 12:11 pm
This is true. Well thought of.
Goodselfme
On November 15, 2009 at 12:41 pm
Tx for your thoughts.
B Nelson
On November 15, 2009 at 2:21 pm
I met the man I am now married to on line but NOT in an on-line dating site. I was not looking for a relationship and was actually quite happy being single. I think if you are despirately searching for somebody in your life you need to get a cat or dog, and not look for a partner who will prey on your loneliness
Christine Ramsay
On November 15, 2009 at 3:08 pm
This sounds like very sensible advice to me. There are many lonely people out there who would love to share some time with others who are on their own. Good work.
Christine
PR Mace
On November 15, 2009 at 6:44 pm
Makes me glad I am happily married.
Joe Dorish
On November 15, 2009 at 9:00 pm
Sounds like good advice all around!
Ruby Hawk
On November 15, 2009 at 11:31 pm
Be very careful about online dating. I have seen some very good outcomes and some bad ones. Just be aware you don’t know the person online no matter how nice they seem. when you first meet the new person,take someone with you and check out the person carefully. you can’t be too careful. If they are the real thing they won’t mind a bit.
Luis Salcedo
On November 16, 2009 at 11:29 am
I would like to introduce a new service called “Message Iland” and can be access at http://www.MessageIland.com is free (completely free “add supported”) and allow you to consolidate all your dating profiles into one. For example if you find somebody you like in a paid dating site and you don\’t want to join that paid dating site, you can look if that person registered that profile into Message Iland and communicate for free.
Please let us know what do you think.
Luis Salcedo Message Iland Team
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