Why People Divorce?
by Explains of why people divorce and what is potentially the main root cause of it in general cases. Also writes about how to save a relationship or marriage.
Studies and research have shown that divorce is the 2nd highest ranking stress event in life which may lead to illness. But, yet the divorce rate is increasing over the years.
Couples divorce for many reasons. Some may be due to money issues, some may be sexual issues and some may be due to lack of affection and commitment. But, if one were to look beyond all these issues and reasons, they will find that it’s the EXPECTATIONS that are the root cause. It is because the spouse does not know what his/her partner interpretation of LOVE is and what they expect out of it, which makes the relationships grows apart. As love is the key to any relationships or marriages, and love cannot be communicated through the mouth but only through ones heart, one must know how love is being expressed and intepreted by their own partner.
By identifying and understanding what is expected of each other in terms of how love is expressed, then only both can find lasting happiness and relationship.
The only way to save a marriage or a relationship is to identify and understand how love should be expressed to your partner.
To share with you, here are some of the most common expectations of people in terms of expressing love;
- Materialistic – Some people treat money & gifts as a language of love. Their interpretation is that when his/her partner surprises them a gift or gives them money, it means that he/she loves him/her. He/She just wants to know that they feel cared for because the partner actually spent time thinking about them and what to give as a gift to them.
- Affirmative Words – Some people would interpret love by saying words of affirmation to the significant other. When the partner speaks kind words to him/her, or encourages him/her, or gives the other person an unexpected and genuine compliment, it simply means to he/she cares about the other person.
- Performing Chores – Some would have love interpreted as having chores done for the significant other. This happens when the significant other does things that makes his/her life less stressful or more enjoyable (e.g. Cooking, gardening, ironing the clothes, mop the floor, help on the laundry, run errands, and etc.). Just like having the food ready on the table when he/she comes back from a tiring day at work would mean to him/her that the significant other actually love and care about him/her.
- Being Together – Certain people would interpret that love means spending of quality time together. When the couple spends quality time together and enjoying a meaningful conversation or just having a fun date, it would simply mean love to him/her.
- Affection & Sexual – Some people would expect that when he/she and the partner hold hands, hug, share physical contact and being intimate, that reflects deeply on caring about each other and sharing love. The moment the spouse does not come into close proximity, it simply means that he/she does not show love at all.
Bottom line, it simply means that in a relationship or marriage, one must know their partner’s expectation of love. A good example would be that if a guy were to always buy gifts for his partner but his partner’s expectation of love would be doing chores, then no matter how many and how expensive the gift can be, his partner will still have the impression that the guy does not love her at all. It is mainly because whatever the guy does, it did not meet his partner’s expectation of love.
What is more interesting is that your significant other’s primary expectation of love may not be the same as yours and it can be completely be expressed differently from yours. And not recognizing one’s primary expectation of love can lead to jeopardizing a relationship or marriage and ended with a divorce. With this message, we now understand why many couples divorce and it is mainly because they do not understand and identify the expectation of love in their partner.
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Post CommentMr Ghaz
On June 26, 2009 at 2:10 am
Great work!!..Nice one..Very interesting piece..I LIKED it.
satellite
On July 20, 2009 at 8:48 pm
The reasons you have enlisted are very practical.
clafleur
On July 30, 2009 at 5:49 pm
Darn good article. Here is my top 5 reason for divorce in order.
1.Money
2.Inlaws
3.Communication
4.Sex
5.And growing in other directions
culver
On January 8, 2010 at 10:19 pm
Excelent article!!!
chaituajadh
On January 9, 2010 at 4:17 am
very nice article, every body should read this.
And another thing is great work it is.
Bubulizzz
On January 9, 2010 at 8:50 am
Nice article, but I think that is some cases when divorce is the best chose.
At first if spouses want to save their marriage, they need to talk with each other – about that what they really think (and it’s what you say – they don’t understand what other spouse think about love and relationships generally) But if one from spouses don’t want to talk, then divorce is only possible option. (or to live in absolute disharmony).
Tongtong
On January 13, 2010 at 10:38 am
Maybe they are not love each other anymore…
Robert
On January 14, 2010 at 2:06 am
they have lack of religious boundary.
wenura
On March 21, 2011 at 1:31 pm
Another reason why people get a divorce is over cheating. Many people marry the people that they don’t love and then they end up with a divorce. nice to read this post.Tnx
shiran
On March 21, 2011 at 2:31 pm
very nice article, every body should read this.may be they feel that it is their option available at that moment
indie
On March 21, 2011 at 2:58 pm
its interesting what u said. Too many people divorce this days for many reasons. But in the end i believe they dont have enough love for eachother.
miley258
On March 21, 2011 at 3:10 pm
nice article….every couple should read it and prevent themselves from getting divorced……
dihan
On March 21, 2011 at 9:55 pm
Believe it or not, Divorce rates all over the world are going up year after year. However, going for a Divorce or not depends upon the kind of relationship
prsanna
On March 21, 2011 at 11:16 pm
useful l article for all. that is the major problem of modern word.so we discuses more & more about Divorce. grate work you done!
bhavya
On March 22, 2011 at 1:37 am
good article……
avanthi
On March 22, 2011 at 1:49 am
Nice article, but I think that is some cases when divorce is the best chose.
Another reason why people get a divorce is over cheating.
jvinayjerry
On March 22, 2011 at 2:08 am
very good article Many people marry the people that they don’t love and then they end up with a divorce. nice to read this post.Tnx
aminno
On March 22, 2011 at 2:26 am
its good site i like that
harshitarai
On March 22, 2011 at 3:22 am
very nice article, every body should read this and should minimize the problems faced each other like misunderstandings, lack of love and affection, etc. so many spouse choose the ultimate solution is divorce, but divorce is not the ultimate solution, we can change ourselves to live a peaceful life with each other.
Suraj
On March 22, 2011 at 4:15 am
i see your article is very good, i read this article very nice, so many people doing divorce,
Suraj
On March 22, 2011 at 4:20 am
i see your article is very good, i read this article very nice, so many people doing divorce.
lukaini
On March 24, 2011 at 2:37 am
When a relationship is based
on the faith and sincerity, I’m
sure would be to reduce
percerain .. In addition to the
family and the couple would
be more harmonious
francisnelson
On March 24, 2011 at 2:49 am
Hi,
useful article for all. that is the major issue of this modern word.So we can discuses more about Divorce. u r done grate work for all!
satish
On March 24, 2011 at 6:37 am
this is very good
gauravpandey
On March 24, 2011 at 6:44 am
it’s wrong way
pooja
On March 25, 2011 at 1:16 am
I read your article. it is useful. and many people agree with your opinion.
yousuf
On March 26, 2011 at 10:05 am
very useful article,nice work.
sriram
On March 27, 2011 at 2:48 am
for all the minor mistakes divorce is not the way if you are good related plz be cool
sriram
On March 27, 2011 at 2:50 am
plz take the divorce if serious prblms occurs
coldboy
On March 27, 2011 at 4:10 am
People divorce because they do not find the feeling of love with your partner. Divorce is a way out of a marriage. I have a happy life and I hope will never divorce my wife.