Why Some Men are Attracted to Mean Girls

Question: Why is it that guys are attracted to such mean girls? I see time & time again nice guys who are with total mean girls. Controlling, manipulative, and nasty. Sure maybe they are pretty or have a nice body. But is it more important to men that their woman look nice or be nice?

-Tammy M, Canada

‘Cause they are foolish (or just haven’t learned yet)

They may deny it, but deep down they know it. Most young guys (myself included) grow up seeing beautiful women on tv and our natural hormones kick in and we want a bombshell. Men are genetically wired to look for a healthy women to have babies with, that’s why long healthy hair, nice breasts and waist to hip ratio are “hot” to us.

Now, at his base this is what a man wants. But when he (if) he matures, he wants a women who treats him good. Beauty IS only skin deep and being with a mean girl DOES get old. Sometimes a “nice” guy doesn’t have the self esteem and wants a good looking girl so bad he will let them treat him like crap. Just like a girl who stays with a jerk who beats her, they lack the strength to stand up for themselves and drop that person.

Superficiality and Marriage Results

Over half of marriages fail in America, I think most of it is because the majority of us who get married are still superficial. Men want the looks without necessarily (or overlooking) what is inside. Women want money, looks and social status , but sometimes overlook how a man is inside and use a man for money or the fact that he is powerful/successful. It is all so superficial and fleeting.

The Relationship Secret You Never Hear About

In my opinion, if you talk to successful truly happy couples, there is an attraction and financial stability, but also a deep spirituality. People don’t have a solid relationship with God, and in the long run it affects not only the relationship but also how they relate and treat their kids. Morales, self love and spirituality (a real relationship with God) are necessary and important.

Mean Girls and Jerks Long Term Results

Look around, mean girls and jerks (If they stay that way) never have healthy, mutually happy relationships that last. Eventually, we all get older and our looks start to fade. But at the end of the day how you treat each other and how you feel about each other is most important.