The Internet is full of eBooks on how to get your ex back. Though I have nothing against those who get back to their boyfriends or husbands one thing I have noticed about some such relationships of my friends are that the relationship is never the same again. The hurt when you were dumped or when you found that your partner was cheating surfaces many a times making one miserable and indulging in blame game and fights making the relationship worse.
The Internet is full of eBooks on how to get your ex back. Though I have nothing against those who get back to their boyfriends or husbands one thing I have noticed about some such relationships of my friends are that the relationship is never the same again. The hurt when you were dumped or when you found that your partner was cheating surfaces many a times making one miserable and indulging in blame game and fights making the relationship worse. In majority of cases the wounds of the mind may dry and heal leaving scars but a small cut may reopen them and the pain on the old wound can be so much deeper. While there is nothing wrong in mending a relationship and trying to build a new life together but when doing so one have to be extremely cautious and careful.
It is seen that many time people, especially ladies, take their ex boyfriend or boyfriend back or give them a second chance to be together as they are more forgiving or often because of poor judgment and then end up with more regrets the second time than they did after the first time. Never give someone who does not deserve a second chance another chance to ruin your life and play with your feelings. When we give someone a second change we need to weigh the pros and cons of doing so. Many times you may find the other person taking you for granted and doing the same mistakes over and over again. A person should be given a second chance in a relationship only if you are absolutely sure things would work between you and when he or she has truly become a better person. Believe me such things does not happen overnight. Give it some time and thought before you jump into the other side of the fence again. Also there might have been several things which bothered you while you were in relationship with your ex. Make sure you ask yourself again and again that if you really want him back in life and if you would be happy with him before committing yourself again. If you even the slightest doubt or hesitation restrain from the relationship because your inner voice or intuition can rarely go wrong.
If you are the one who had decided to leave then you may have had specific reasons on why you broke up like Cheating, secretive or suspicious nature of partner, fights, lack of trust or responsibility or even finding someone better. If you broke from your partner as a result of misunderstanding or lack of trust on your partner understand that trust and love is the base of any relationship and you have to work on it first before approaching the partner for reconciliation. If a relationship is making you miserable then it is better to get out of that and move on with life. If you are the one been dumped many a times you become an emotional wreck with a hurt ego and sometimes not even knowing why you were dumped because the partner did not have the decency to let you know why he or she is breaking up. So when an ex boyfriend or girlfriend is willing to give you a second chance do not jump right back before making sure things would go well with you. Do not make a quick or emotional decision. Otherwise you may be leaping from the frying pan to the fire. After all we only live once and we have the right to live a happy life. Think and focus on priorities and make intelligent decisions.