Why You Should Not Take Your Ex Back
by The Internet is full of eBooks on how to get your ex back. Though I have nothing against those who get back to their boyfriends or husbands one thing I have noticed about some such relationships of my friends are that the relationship is never the same again. The hurt when you were dumped or when you found that your partner was cheating surfaces many a times making one miserable and indulging in blame game and fights making the relationship worse.
Also remember that by taking him or her back you are blocking your chances of attracting someone who is right for you and who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Understand that you are not a door mat and cannot be taken for granted. Your happiness does not depend on anyone else but you. So before you submit yourself to a control freak, cheating or abusive partner remember that you deserve a much better life than what that person can give you. It isn’t worth the heartache to be with him or her. So before you are thinking about rekindling an old flame ask yourself why you really want to get back together.
Many people beg and plead with their ex to take them back. Some even go to the extent of threatening that they will commit suicide. But I think it is wrong. When a partner decides to move on it is better to respect their decision and let them do so. You nagging or pleading may bring them back to you temporarily but leave you more hurt and wounded the next time they break up. Accept that things are over between you and move on. Ask yourself why you should not go back to the guy who dumped you. If he can live without you, you can too! If he has cheated you more than once, He is likely to cheat you again. If a guy does not trust you (or appreciate you or take you for granted) you are wasting your time on him.
Breakups are hard but it often makes us emotionally stronger to face challenges in life. Haven’t we all heard that “Everything happens for a reason” and “There are other fish in the sea”?
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Post CommentSurendra
On November 27, 2009 at 7:00 am
Another excellent advice.
Citra Florenca
On November 28, 2009 at 10:12 am
Great article!
V rank
On November 29, 2009 at 5:24 am
I think this gives an eye-opener to those who just had their breakups…
athena goodlight
On December 1, 2009 at 11:31 am
very true! don’t take your ex back. The trust is already shattered. It’s not worth the trouble. Good write up!