Wings of Relationships – Mutual Needs

You might have realized your old intimate friends getting lost if your needs of each other vanish due to change of circumstances, and also that a friendship is the most generous and open ended relationship and easiest to sustain. This is the background on which I build this work on for all types of relationships.   

I had a long-standing friend, very intimate, very well-wishing, free from selfish interests with each other. Over the years, our circumstances changed, we both needed respective soul-mates, and our first choices fell on each other. Thus our friendly relationship used wings of our mutual needs and went to sit on a different tree of ‘love’.  

Another instance comes to my mind. Once, I saw a very lovely face looking vary familiar to me though I had never seen her before. We had a wide age gap, even then I thought of being close to her. I indicated my interest in her. We met at different places through intentions of the two to know each other. One evening, I invited her for a chat – I showed my interest in her grace while she was impresed with  my writings. We both tended to be close to each other. 

She was disowned by her family and was also a single mother of three kids. She asked me to be her father, and I could not afford to lose this opportunity of being not only close to her but also the most respected for her. She is my the most darling daughter since then, apart from my three real daughters junior to her. Again, the wings of our mutual needs were the cause of father-daughter relatinship.

 Everyone of us keep on looking for filling some void in his/her life. Also each of us has the potential of providing something valuable to someone else. When the needs of the two find opportunities to get satiated by each other’s offerings, two enter into a relationship that lasts long. It is not necessary that persons know this theory for entering the relationship after making calculations ofmutual needs and offerings. But their sub-conscious minds know this well and do all the homework necessary for the relationship. 

It is also not that all relationships comply this theory of mutual needs and offerings. Such relationships get faded soon or get converted to some other relationship when the two discover each other’s needs and offerings.