“Women And Their Lovers”

 

We will look at a few scenarios, and in doing so; we will explore what a good lover means. Lets look at a few women, and what making love could mean to them.

 

First woman:

She fell in love with her man. Actually, it was love at first sight. He wanted to make love to her on the first night, but she didn’t want to seem easy, so she made him wait a few days, then finally gave into his desires for her, believing that she was doing the right thing, and in a way she was because by giving into him, and his desires she found out that he wasn’t the lover that he thought he was. Actually, she wondered what she found so attractive about this guy who didn’t take his time with her. He didn’t take the time to get her excited enough to have an orgasm. He took care of his needs, and left her wondering what had just happened. In a way she was glad that she gave into him, now she could dump this guy who only though about himself, and move on in life, hoping the next man she’d have sex with, would be far more considerate of her needs.

 

Second Woman:

 She thinks to herself as she and her new boyfriend walk into a sex shop, hmmm this could be interesting, if he wants to go to a sex shop, why shouldn’t I go too? I’m as open minded as any other woman, maybe even more so. This should be fun. They walk into the sex shop, and explore all this sex shop has to offer, and he asks her if he buys her that sexy lingerie in the window, would she wear it? She thinks to herself why not, this could be fun, and so he buys the skimpy lingerie, and go to her place to have some fun..

 

They’ve only known each other a few weeks, but she finds it strange that he wants to shower alone, and not with her. She hopes he’s not one on these guys who wants to make love in the dark, but she goes along with him, thinking that it might excite her more if they shower alone. He comes out of the shower smelling very fresh, and exciting and they kiss and hold each other tightly. She can feel him getting erect, and pushes him away with a smile on her lips, teasingly biting him on the ear, as she leaves for her shower.

 

She showers, dries herself, and puts on the skimpy lingerie he bought for her. She opens the bathroom door and stands there hoping for some kind of praise from him, and she gets it two fold, after-all in her mind she has the body for this kind of lingerie, why not give him a good show, and she does.

 

He grabs her, and they fall on the bed. He seems to be in some sort of rush. She wanted to walk around the room to tease him, maybe even put on some music and strip for him, but he seems all hands and fingers, and in a small way instead of getting excited she finds herself being turned off by his rushing her. They make love, yes she had an orgasm but only one, and that leaves her thinking that perhaps this guy isn’t the man for her, she’s used to having more than one orgasm, actually she thinks to herself, more along the lines on three to four orgasms, not just one.

 

The next day, she calls him and tells him that if he wants that sexy lingerie that she will give it back to him, she doesn’t want to see him again. He’s not the man for her. And so it seems that yet another man has let her down, my God will she ever find a man who will take his time with her? She wants a man with compassion for her, and her needs. It seems an impossible task to find such a man.

 

Third Woman:

 

She’s standing at the fax machine and he comes up behind her. He whispers in her ear that just by standing there she’s making him hot, can’t she sit down, and he chuckles as he walks away. Wow, she thinks to herself he’s kind of cute, maybe she should use the fax machine more often. They make eye contact several times during the day, and finally before the workday ends, he approaches her for a drink after work, and she agrees.

 

She’s heard all the stories about how office romances can create more problems than good, but she’s an out going type of woman, and doesn’t care what her co- workers think. The workday ends and they head for a bar that they both know, one with music and free food snacks. He orders drinks for each of them, and they seem to be able to converse easily. Good she thinks to herself as she licks her lips letting him know that she likes the way he looks, my god she thinks to herself, he’s turning me on, and he hasn’t even touched me. She thinks to herself this could be an interesting night. She rubs her breasts against his arm, looking to see if he’s going to respond, and he does by giving her a small kiss on the neck. They only dance the slow dances, and while they are dancing he’s touching her hips, slight touches, enough to let her know he’s interested and more so, enough to turn her on more than she already is. The evening seems to go by in a flash, and they decide to go to her place for a nightcap.

 

They aren’t inside her apartment and he’s touching her, kissing her neck, rubbing her lower back and she’s starting to wonder when he’s going to push her towards the bed. He doesn’t push her towards the bed, what he does is turn her face-wards to the wall and caresses her all over. She’s breathing hard, she can’t help herself, and then without warning he lifts her up though she was a rag doll, and sits her on the dining room table.

 

He pushes her backwards so that she’s lying down, but he doesn’t un-dress her, he just keeps teasing her. My God she thinks to herself, I’ve had three orgasms and he hasn’t removed one peace of clothing, I can’t wait to see what’s coming next.

 

As it turned out, they had a wonderful evening, she had many more orgasms than she’d ever had before, she just couldn’t get over it, and better yet after they showered for the second time that evening, he wanted more of her. No doubt she thought to herself, this guy is my ultimate lover. No man before this guy had turned her on like  he did, and more so, he didn’t want to leave and go home, he wanted to stay all night, which she agreed to.

 

Of course this article is fictious but it’s also true concerning the women and the heart aches that they suffer, in finding a good lover. Some men are very greedy. They only think of themselves when it comes to making love to a woman, and that’s sad. What most men don’t take into account is that women don’t get turned on as easily as they do. Most women take far more time to get sexually excited than men do, and they don’t want to be treated like a piece of meat, they want to be respected in every way, especially sexually. Many women have, and do complain that the men they are married to or possibly living with, a good men, but they aren’t very compassionate lovers, and often as not, the women give their bodies to these men hoping in silence and prayer that one day their men will do as much for them on a sexual basis, as they do for their men.

 

It’s sad that more men don’t take a woman’s needs into consideration. There is hope though for the women who want to apply themselves in finding a good lover. This is where women have to speak up. Tell your man what he can do to turn you on and keep you turned on. Don’t sit back and let any man use you for his needs. Not only is it unfair, it’s sad that many women roll over after their men have had their way with them, and go to sleep wondering when if ever they will have an orgasm.

 

No woman should have to go to sleep hoping that the next time her man makes love to her that she has an orgasm. Stand up for yourselves. Tell your men what you want from them. Don’t give in to them until they make you happy sexually. Then, and only then should you allow a man to satisfy himself. It’s your body, it doesn’t belong to any man, do what’s right for yourself, and stop going to sleep after making love, and wondering if the next time will be better. Make your man an ultimate lover.

 

Just to prove this point. Some men can use an inflatable doll to relieve themselves. What does that tell you about a man? Most men don’t feel the same way about making love as a woman does, and it’s your job to put an end to that. If women were to take a stand, and tell their men what they expect from them sexually, their sex lives might be a whole lot better than if they say nothing. Remember ladies, a man can’t read your mind, tell him, show him, and if he doesn’t like it, move on, or suffer each and every time he makes love to you because you will never enjoy you’re sexual encounters.

 

 For some women it’s not easy speaking up to their men, but if you don’t speak up, you will always go to sleep wondering about the next time you make love. Hoping that you will finally have the orgasms that you deserve to have. Making your man into an ultimate lover may never happen, but if you accomplish half of what you want sexually, that’s better than no accomplishments at all, and its way better than going to sleep saddened by the fact that yet again, you didn’t have an orgasm.

 

 

 

Ó Paul Faulkenham November 17,2009