I am a good woman that came out of a bad 13 year marriage. I took about 1 year to be by myself and not date any man until I knew for certain that I wasn’t going to get back with my husband. This way, I’m not damaging a possible future good relationship. Also, this time allowed me the chance to look at the good and bad things in the marriage so that I know what I needed to change about myself and what I was not willing to put up with.

I have a degree and make good money to support myself and my kids so I don’t look for a man to come in and save me. Sounds like some of you feel used because you came in strong as a provider and feel rejected when she leaves. You should make a woman work for it just like we make you work for our time and affection. Anytime you put a lot of energy into something and work hard for it, you tend to have more appreciation for it. It becomes special to you.

I dealt with 2 bad relationships after I was ready to date. Then I met a man that I wasn’t interested in dating. He did not fit any of the characteristics of the men that normally attract me to them. I thought it over (maybe I need to change things up – why expect a different result if you’re going to do the same thing over and over again) and realized that there may be some potential here so I proceeded with dating him. He’s not perfect but he is a good man with good intentions for me and my kids. He doesn’t have kids of his own and didn’t want a woman with kids but we fell in love. We have now been together a little over a year and we continue to work on the relationship. He shows me his love is growing for me and I show him my appreciation for him stepping in and being a role model for my kids. This man has complained about most of the women he’s dated to me….looks like he had some of the same issues you had. I enjoy showing him how important he is in our lives…there are several things he does that my husband didn’t care to do and I love it!

That was a mouth full but the point I wanted to make is that……you really need to listen to these women when they talk. Most of the time, the red flags have been raised….these women are not over their exes so they will continue to accept the bullcrap back in their lives. Pay attention to how they live their life….Just observing them before jumping into anything will speak for itself….these women are not ready…….so it doesn’t matter if you are good…..they are emotionally unstable and will only deal with a relationship full of roller coasters…..when they had enough and want a good man, they will let go of the ex 100% and accept you in their lives…..there are woman out there that want a good man and will treat him like a king…you just have to pay close attention….

If you go back to a less prosperous time, they had more pressing issues (like surviving that day) . And while they maybe had some difficulty, they were most likely able to use the more pressing motivators to “pull it together” and function. Fast forward to today, and those motivators don’t exist. And now they’re lost in their day to day neurotic mindset.

As a result, they can’t maintain any benefitial emotional state. They swing from one destructive end of the spectrum of behavior to the other. There is no life threatening consequences, it is all literally a silly joke to them. Whether its treating a good man like crap, or worshiping a loser… There are no Real consequences for them… since their primitive mind really only sees ‘life or death’ consequences as real and actual consequences. Much like a child, if they know there will be no spanking, no punishment, then the damage they may inflict on others property or person means nothing to them.

We may forgive a child for being emotionally immature, for they are a child after all and have yet to mature. But grown women should know better… but sadly they don’t.

Just try and remember… The love they express to you will never be constant, neither will their loyalty nor their appreciation of you. It will wax and wane. If you build in severe consequences into your interactions with a woman, much like you would with a child… you could possibliy force the woman to maintain a mental balance that was sufficiently stable to allow a long term relationship to exist. But you have to understand, you can never get ‘comfortable’ with them, you’ll never have any ‘emotional security’ with them. You have to be always willing to leave them at a moments notice, and they will have to be reminded of this fairly often; for they will always attempt to call your bluff. That is your only weapon. You can’t hit them, or starve them, or otherwise use brutality to keep their destructive and defective mentalities in check. These are obviously illegal and morally suspect strategies. Abandonment is the only legal tool that you can use.

It is also the only tool one can justify to others. “I left, I will not be treated badly”. Its sad though that women of today are so emotionally immature. But you must remember, this is what they are. They are not ‘emotional’… they are weak, so weak they lack the strength to even govern their own stupidity.