Women That Abuse Men
We never seem to hear about the men that are abused by women. They live day after day with the fear being violently abused and humiliated by the women they live with, by a woman who could be the mother of their children.
We never seem to hear about the men that are abused by women. They live day after day with the fear being violently abused and humiliated by the women they live with, by a woman who could be the mother of their children.
The reason we don’t hear about it could be because no additional support has been offered to men of abuse as it has for women of abuse, no carrot offered to tempt them into to seeking help. Virtually nothing has been done to encourage men to report cases of violence but it is probably up in the 400,000 of men that do get repeatedly beaten and abusively treated by their wives or girlfriends.
Also the impact a woman has on beating a man, giving him a black eye or broken finger would be assumed by others to be the end result in a fight with another man. The mental scares and loss of self-confidence are as devastating for a man as they are for a woman who gets beaten by a man.
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Domestic abuse aimed towards a man can be more emotional that physical. Professionals have observed that women are often more capable of dishing out some of the most hateful emotional abuse. Some men are overly sensitive to emotional and psychological abuse and find it humiliating when their partner acts on these in front of other men.
Many men think that the idea of them being a subject of domestic abuse and violence is absurd and will not even attempt to report it for the added emotional fear of looking stupid.
Women that are abusive fall into a few categories.
Alcohol abuse, women who abuse men are most likely to be alcoholics.
Many have been found to have personality disorder of some kind that is linked almost exclusively to women.
There are other abusive women that blame all the bad things in their life on their partner, when instead it is themselves that are asking unrealistic demands and expectations. They may be typically depressed but refuse treatment and turn to alcohol instead which just increases their frustration with their life.
So you see many of the problems are related to the woman’s problem and have nothing to do with the man being weak or lacking in authority he is just there because he cares, or can’t leave because of the children or even that he hasn’t enough money to leave and he feels trapped. These seem very similar to what a woman being abused would feel like and women get help.
There needs to be more support for men and fathers who are in this situation to be able to walk away, walk away with their children top a better future.
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redmail99
On November 9, 2009 at 2:06 pm
violence its not good in any way…
Sourav
On November 9, 2009 at 2:16 pm
You are right, these kinds of incidents often don’t get any focus. It’s a bad thing that people get violent. Very uncivilized regardless the gender.
Themax
On November 9, 2009 at 2:18 pm
you said it and yes you said it today!!!
Men are always ignored in many case,Thanks its a great support.
But yea violence is not good at all…..
Thanks
Guy Hogan
On November 9, 2009 at 3:36 pm
I’ve read reports of men being abused by women. And I grew up with domestic violence; but my dad was the one that did the hiting. Either way, domestic violence has no place in a marriage, in what is suppose to be a loving relationship.
Bo Jack Russo
On November 9, 2009 at 4:32 pm
Yep it goes both ways.
Francois Hagnere
On November 9, 2009 at 4:59 pm
Very interesting article, as usual. Congratulations again Lilly. You always find the excellent topics! I do agree with Themax men are always ignored in many cases. Violence is horrible wherever it comes from. Thank you Lilly.
Authoress Terry E. Lyle
On November 9, 2009 at 6:02 pm
That’s sad but true.
jimbob1
On November 9, 2009 at 6:40 pm
The violent, emotional mood swings of a woman going through the change of life (menopause) are often cited as major factors in the psychological/mental abuse suffered by men in a marriage or common-law relationship. Menopausal women can often be more hurtful with their verbal attacks and actions than if they were to carry out a physical assault on their partner. As usual a very informative and well-researched submission.
Frances Lawrence
On November 9, 2009 at 7:04 pm
An important subject, in the course of my work I have come across several men who have been victims of physical abuse from controling partners.
craigz
On November 9, 2009 at 7:40 pm
Brilliant article. So many men are abused or beaten yet society does nothing. And yes, the majority of the women that do this have some deep rooted problem and usually fuelled by alcohol. But do people such as CAFCASS or Social Services do anything if children are caught in the middle and a man applies for custody? Nope. They only like to hear of the men doing it as majority of the women working in those departments are sexist.
Anyway great article and ironically coming from a woman.
Like men that do it, any form of violence is wrong and as humans, both sexes should always be on a level playing field.
Geomorphosis
On November 9, 2009 at 7:41 pm
Very true. We can all sympathize with these people.
James Rotem
On November 9, 2009 at 7:50 pm
I knew a woman who would beat her husband almost daily. At the time it was hard for me to believe that a woman abusing a man was possible, but then I saw the whole picture.
Domestic abuse is never cool
Mystify
On November 9, 2009 at 8:52 pm
Another brillaint topic and write Lilly! This is another subject that is not touched on often enough.I think with men they feel too ashamed and degraded to actually seek support because woemn are supposed to be the weaker sex so how could they be the ones that are abused.I think any form of abuse is pathetic and disgusting! I think those that do it have anger issues that are unresolved and they spend their lives blaming others.Very enjoyable read!
Teves
On November 9, 2009 at 9:28 pm
Good article…
ssaunders
On November 9, 2009 at 10:16 pm
I have watched a man be beating and scared by an abusive girlfriend. I think hitting a loved one should never be excusable. Man or Women.
Wennie Estares
On November 10, 2009 at 1:05 am
I think you are correct that the subject of domestic violence should be both men and women.
giftarist
On November 10, 2009 at 5:08 am
Clever write..a unique topic
shanthu
On November 10, 2009 at 6:07 am
fact…nice one..thanks for the share
cardy
On November 10, 2009 at 7:12 am
This is a great article it’s true that we never hear of this side of the story, thanks for the share with this, good work from you!
Mr Ghaz
On November 10, 2009 at 8:03 am
so true..very interesting topic..nicely done my friend..keep it up..cheers
Elleword
On November 10, 2009 at 8:40 am
Domestic violence describes a situation where one partner in a relationship is using violent and abusive behaviours in order to control and dominate the other partner..don’t matter what sex you are..excellent write LillyRose and a topic that is seldom addressed..good for you darlin’
Darla Smith
On November 10, 2009 at 8:44 am
I have a friend whose brother was abused by his wife both physically and emotionally. Abuse is wrong no matter who does it.
Annashank
On November 10, 2009 at 8:51 am
I believe in this… Domestic Violence to both men and women can be devastating both physically and emotionally… We need to stop that circle and show our kids it is not Okay to treat other human beings unjustly… Great write and thank you for bringing in the awareness…
diamondpoet
On November 10, 2009 at 9:33 am
I like your article and agree with you, as a matter of fact I personally knew a guy who was abused by his wife, he wasn’t raised to hit a women and he spent alot of night calling the police on his drunk abusive wife.
mr sir
On November 10, 2009 at 1:26 pm
Wow… I never knew about that… But I totally agree with you, no one should be violent to anyone… Plus most of the domestic violence help is offered to Woman and not Men…
girlnextdoor
On November 10, 2009 at 1:42 pm
I like this article and the topic is novel it must be as taumatic if not more for men to endure abuse, God help them…
STEVE666
On November 10, 2009 at 3:13 pm
Good article on a difficult subject, Lily. There’s a certain social stigma concerning wife on husband abuse. Men are reluctant to report this as, to add insult to literal injury, they then can become a figure of ridicule by both their peers and the authorities.
lillyrose
On November 10, 2009 at 3:34 pm
You are right but it really shouldn’t be that way.
PhoenixRox
On November 11, 2009 at 1:29 pm
Excellent article Lilly. Abuse in any way to any one is wrong. Be it physical/mental/emotional, be it to a man or a woman , it is totally unacceptable and people must realize that they have an option. They have to make that choice. Thanks!
Franklin
On November 12, 2009 at 12:18 am
The title capticates my attention so as the content..
islandgirl
On November 13, 2009 at 4:47 am
mmm..i never heard such abuse in men but if there is, it’s sad to hear.. like men women can be very abusive..not if you let them.. nice article by the way..
Jane Jane
On November 13, 2009 at 10:33 am
poor man. as long as there is abuse whether what gender it might be, there must be justice.
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