You Should Give Up Hope That They Will Fall in Love with You

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I do care very deeply for someone, but it was going nowhere. It was time to walk away. We’ve meant a great deal to one another, but everything went wrong for us. I’ve learned that the effort of one will never keep two people together, and that you need to know when to give up. I put the effort into our friendship, and I made the effort to do my best to make her happy, make her smile, make her laugh and to listen to her. I was there for her, even though I wasn’t getting what I needed in return. I tried to be a solid friend, not thinking of myself or of my needs, and even though I didn’t feel what I wanted and hoped for from her. I still wanted to be there for her, until I realized that I wasn’t getting anything positive from the relationship. With me, she once was a sweet, caring, thoughtful, funny woman, but I couldn’t find/feel that in her anymore. She used to be positive, had goals, plans, hopes and dreams. We grew so far apart that it was time I let go, especially since the light dimmed so much on the spark and life and electricity that I loved about her. We can’t keep hoping, or waiting that they’d make the same effort someday, because it’s not going to happen. If you think that she/he will one day wake up and fall in love with you, keep dreaming! So, you need to know when to move on? Consider the following:

Have you expressed your feelings clearly?

Have you been forward about it? If you have, how did it go? You should know the answer already. If she/he said, “NO,” that’s not going to change! It does take time to set in, but face the reality. You may need time to adjust to it, you may even need time to completely break away from the relationship, but when you are ready to, do it. Don’t ever expect someones feelings to change, because you never want to be with someone that couldn’t fall deeply for you to begin with. Don’t cheat yourself out of a deep beautiful love that you can have with someone else.