You Should Give Up Hope That They Will Fall in Love with You

Do they speak of plans that they’d like to make with you?

Plans should not only be made by you. Are you suggesting going to the museum and getting a “we’ll see?” Are they making themselves available to you for dates? When I asked her for a date, her response was “I’m tired.” If you are getting flat out nos and evasive answers on future plans, this is not the person you need in your life. When two people want to be together, they make time to enjoy each others company.

Do they make you feel good? Secure?

We need to be happy and secure with ourselves to begin with, but it’s a great feeling when someone else gives us an added bust. What are the general things that you want from a partner? What things can they do to make you feel terrific? I like it very much when the person that I’m with hugs me, and reaches out to hold me throughout the day. With her, I longed for that, but it never came. If things like this are a big deal for you, and the person you are with can’t be emotionally giving to you, you will always feel empty. She isn’t capable of having an emotional relationship as I am, and I knew it a longtime ago. We don’t always walk away as soon as we should, as is my case.

Do they speak “of a future?”

Are they talking any future plans? House? Children? Are they including you? She wants to buy a house, but not with me! Listen for your answers as I did, because they are there! As I’ve said, “some of us need time before moving on,” but make sure you do!

Has she/he done anything that is unforgivable?

If the one you love has hurt you deeply over and over again, that is not love. How long are you going to hope that things will change? I’ve been hurt and disappointed over and over by her, until it reach a point that I know longer respect her. When a person can no longer appreciate who I am, and they can not even muster up a “thank you,” or a “thinking of you,” they are gone from my life! When things get to a point that it’s not just a disagreement, but it becomes down right mean, you don’t need them! I have a list of “unforgiven” for her, and at the top is, “how dare you forget about me on September 11, 2009!” With all I had been through, that was the kick in the ass that made me see that you are worthless! Don’t love me, be mad at me as much as you want, but don’t disrespect me! At what point do you realize that they see you as “not worth it?” I wasn’t worth it on that day! The sooner you realize that they see you as “not worth it,” you can be out of the life of someone that doesn’t deserve you!

Walking away is the toughest part, but how much longer do you need to suffer the pain to wake up? When you have found real love, you don’t need to be concerned about a “list of 10.” With real love, their are no difficult questions. The hurt is tough dealing with at first, but in time you’ll see things more clearly. One day, you’ll realize you’re happy again, and someone very special in your life will be telling you that you’re sexy to!