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15 Things Men Want in Bed

So you think you are close to your man? And you know how to push all his hot buttons to get him fired up for sex? No matter how good the communication between the two of you appears to be, there will always be things that your guy is afraid or unable to tell you about what he really want in the bed. And what that is can be separated in two lists, one reflecting the most important physical needs, and the other containing the most crucial emotion desires.

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1.Good communication after sex.

A surprise here. Men actually want women to cuddle the before they rush off to the bathroom to clean up, a sign that the age of the “New Man” really exists. Many man like a bit of chit-chat at this point as well, so this would be a good time to say how much you enjoyed the whole experience.

2. Help with his erection.

This means working with your man, and not against him. You are emotionally involved with him and not just lying there keeping silent score in your head or waiting for him to prove something. Show him tenderness and affection as well as passion.

3. Candour

This means honesty about your sexual and physical health. One man had performed oral sex on his partner, only to be told later that she was menstruating! Another mad had used his partner’s bathroom after sex, only to discover her STD (sexually transmitted disease) appointment card lying for all the world to see on top of the toilet. Let him know if there are reasons when sex would not be ideal and you really would prefer to have a cup of tea instead. It may be embarrassing for you, as a women, to tell all, so may be just saying “It’s the wrong time of the month”, will be enough. However, it is possible to have sex during your period, if you so desire, by using a diaphragm, which temporarily holds back the flow of blood. It is, as they say, all a matter of taste.

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  1. Lady Syxess

    On November 25, 2008 at 6:50 am

    Great piece! Nice to hear from the male point of view and you put the words down greatly. Can’t wait for more articles

  2. James DeVere

    On November 25, 2008 at 4:21 pm

    Did you do a fix on it? I thought I had read this before. Great tips tho’. Keep it UP! j

  3. Matt John

    On November 25, 2008 at 7:37 pm

    This article has been fix again because some missing text. I hope you all enjoy read this article again.

  4. Gabrial

    On November 25, 2008 at 10:26 pm

    Thanks for the tip.

  5. Joie Schmidt

    On November 25, 2008 at 11:06 pm

    I agree with Lady… thanks for the great tips!



    -Liane Schmidt.

  6. Linda Hook

    On November 26, 2008 at 8:25 pm

    I like this article!

  7. gabbic1219

    On November 27, 2008 at 2:03 pm

    nice article…fun to read and i am on track then:)
    it is good that a man shares want they want!like u said a girl should as well.

  8. Heather Pasternak

    On November 27, 2008 at 11:40 pm

    Praise: Good article. It’s interesting hearing things from a male perspective.

    But… maybe try reading them again when your done typing. Spell check can miss things. There wasn’t alot, just a few. EX: Cab should be can

  9. Matt John

    On November 28, 2008 at 4:02 am

    Thanks for you advise. I will remember that.

  10. Will Gray

    On November 28, 2008 at 9:29 am

    Great article! Like Heather said, you should always use spellcheck. BUt it is a wonderful write!

  11. Blue Buttefly

    On November 28, 2008 at 11:46 am

    You are speaking in behalf of all men ha! Great info for women.

  12. Matt John

    On November 28, 2008 at 11:40 pm

    Thanks guy for your support. :)

  13. Dan Haugh

    On November 29, 2008 at 10:59 pm


    I hope women who read this don’t think that you speak for all men. You seem very self centered. In fact I feel sorry for your girlfriend, if in fact you actually have one.

  14. Jasin

    On November 30, 2008 at 2:43 am

    When it comes to love making, all I want is a woman that respects me and what we are doing, if I get that the rest will fall into place.
    Good article.

  15. Peter Cimino

    On December 1, 2008 at 10:27 am

    Well done. To each his own though….the bottom line is express what you want. That’s the only way she’ll know.

  16. Clay Hurtubise

    On December 5, 2008 at 9:07 pm

    LOL! As a gay man I find this humorous, men are self centered; gay or straight!
    What I want in bed?
    Another MAN !!
    But seriously, most folks will find better love when they love better.


    On December 17, 2008 at 8:47 pm

    Good to know … I love how you just lay it out!
    TADA! =)

    I haven’t gotten any complaints … so I guess I’m doing okay in this department =)

  18. Marli Diz

    On December 18, 2008 at 8:44 pm

    Thanx for the ideas

  19. Kamielia

    On January 1, 2009 at 3:50 am

    Wow! great tip!

  20. QuinMonty86

    On January 8, 2009 at 8:38 pm

    Great article. Having been married for 23 years I can agree with all things said. Most learned by trial and error. I think the most important thing is good communication. And remembering that sex is FUN!!

  21. blue rose

    On January 8, 2009 at 9:00 pm


  22. katarina giselle

    On January 8, 2009 at 10:52 pm

    Now how do i get my man to be more spontanious? I try..but we both work opposite schedules and i have my son, so it’s impossible! I make the effort, but he doesn’t.

  23. Carlithea C Farrington

    On January 9, 2009 at 1:00 pm

    I loved it!!! I like the way you were so upfront and how you seem to feel comfortable talking about the subject. Many people don’t know how to address some of the issues that you brought up, but you presented it in a way that may change the way couples feel about communicating their sexual needs effectively. Way to go!

  24. conta

    On January 27, 2009 at 8:32 pm

    never knew.

  25. voilet

    On February 8, 2009 at 2:09 am

    like ur article.
    thanks for the tips.

  26. Vickyseo

    On February 16, 2009 at 3:09 am

    wow such a good tips thanks for sharing!!!

  27. john

    On February 25, 2009 at 10:31 am


  28. Megan

    On March 11, 2009 at 3:09 pm

    Interesting article, although I was a bit put off by the amount of spelling and grammar mistakes. Perhaps a proof read? Thanks for the advice!

  29. Susan Tan

    On March 13, 2009 at 2:41 pm

    Thanks for the tips about what man need at bed. :) Love this article

  30. Luffy12

    On April 10, 2009 at 10:20 pm

    im too young for this

  31. Mr Ghaz

    On April 10, 2009 at 10:35 pm

    wow! very interesting piece! Thnx for sharing this great ideas..

  32. Juancav

    On April 10, 2009 at 10:49 pm

    Nice art loving.

  33. C. S. Robins

    On April 10, 2009 at 11:59 pm

    For once, a list included more than ten tips…and helpful and ones too! Thank you!

  34. R J Evans

    On April 11, 2009 at 3:21 am

    An excellent list! One thing you missed out though! BREAKFAST!

    This, for me, would be a great no. 16!

  35. rutherfranc

    On April 12, 2009 at 11:41 pm

    I only have 3 on my list right now… blanket, mattress, pillow..

  36. ML Sheldon

    On April 14, 2009 at 12:32 pm

    Good article… definitely gives a glance into the desires of the opposite sex.

  37. NPO

    On April 15, 2009 at 4:23 am

    Very Good , unique and bold Article.
    Thanks for posting.

  38. Joni Keith

    On April 25, 2009 at 5:49 pm

    Great presentation of a male’s perspective.

  39. no name

    On October 4, 2009 at 11:59 pm

    role-playing,lying … these repulsive suggestions are 4 prostitution and temporary relationship with some benefit involves,i prefer having sex with prostitutes,at least they have honesty in their motivation…

  40. revivor

    On November 14, 2009 at 9:50 am

    well done for saying the unsayable (in some people’s minds)

  41. Teves

    On November 21, 2009 at 5:12 pm

    Very nice tips for the girls!

  42. Matt John

    On November 23, 2009 at 11:58 am

    Thanks :D

  43. Jenna

    On January 13, 2010 at 2:22 am

    Dear Matthew get over yourself. My life does not revolve around pleasing my man….if he does not like it..he can look elsewhere and so can I or there is the good ol vibrator

  44. Susan

    On January 29, 2010 at 4:27 pm

    Article was good apart from the quick sex bit at the end, quick sex is fine but would a man ever consider pleasuring his partner making her orgasm without having an orgasm himself? If he answers yes to this then yeah quick sex is fine, Women do not orgasm during quick sex and even though we lie and say it doesnt matter, it so does, and leaves us feeling frustrated. So bottom line if your willing to perform oral on your woman and not expect her to have to make you come then you know what quick sex is like for us.

  45. Annie

    On March 17, 2010 at 6:47 am

    Jenna, what are you whining about? Just because you care about what your man likes doesn’t mean your life revolves around it. I’m sure you wouldn’t be saying that if he’d been a woman saying what she wants. I hope you and your vibrator are happy together, after all it doesn’t require you to give anything back in the relationship.

    Matthew’s comment was interesting. Of course all men want different things, communication is the key.

  46. LoveDoctor

    On March 17, 2010 at 4:30 pm

    Lol. This is a very well-written article and funny too. I learned a few things too. Most guys just toss and turn around in bed after they are satisfied rather than wanting to cuddle. I’m not sure why but cuddling is something that not a lot of guys want to do. I guess you have to be affectionate to know how it really feels. It’s nice to be held and fall asleep in somebody’s arms. Isn’t that how humans bond? Anyways, #3 made me laugh. That guy couldn’t tell his wife had her period. first, no matter how clean you are there’s always discharge and smell. so I imagine he was totally clueless. check out my article if u have time. thanks.

  47. Lala

    On April 9, 2010 at 2:39 pm

    It’s just common sense…as long as you’re not selfish

  48. Lala

    On April 9, 2010 at 2:40 pm

    It\’s just common sense…as long as you\’re not selfish…DUH!!!

  49. Sachinnnn

    On June 12, 2010 at 2:05 am

    Commen things.. which are not welll noticed…
    Will be helpfulll… to get satisfied…

  50. cha

    On May 16, 2011 at 4:45 am

    I want my bing

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