Action Sammy’s Dating Tips: Non-kinky Ways for Couples to Rejuvenate Their Sex Lives

Sex is considered by most to be one of the most important parts of a relationship. It is one of the few activities that makes the love between two partners unique and sets it apart form the love you have for a relative or friend. And, it is exciting. It’s fun. It’s all part of intimacy, which is one of the prime motivators for wanting a relationship in the first place. Otherwise, you may as well be just roommates.

But, sexual relations, for all its importance, have a knack for deteriorating with time.  Many partners tend to lose sexual interest in one another after a few years. Typically, after about 10 years of marriage, that spark is gone. The intensity with which you used to stare at one another is suddenly gone. Often, it happens in couples who overdid it with their sexual routines early on in their marriages but it also happens with couples who enjoyed considerably moderate sexual relations.

What’s really sad is that most couples never regain their sex lives. As I’ve stated in earlier articles, most people tend to be overly shy about matters concerning sex. So rather than talk about it with their partners or consult with a sex therapist, most people simply accept the loss of a sex life as natural part of a long-sustaining relationship. Additionally, we still live in a youth-oriented world that doesn’t take well to the thought of having sex after age 50 or 60. So, many also accept a loss of a sex life as part of getting old. They believe that they’re not suppose to enjoy sex anymore.

Another thing that works against any desire for some couples to their sex lives is the frequent misconception that the only way to spice it up is to resort to a little kinkiness. Much of the kinky advice is a total turn off for many. Often, when people do look for ways to improve their sex lives they are overwhelmed with a lot of kinky advice – try it in the car, try it in the backyard in the afternoon, buy some uniforms, buy some “toys”, etc.

I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with any of that. In fact, I like toys myself. I have an extensive collection of Marvel and Star Wars action figures, though for the life of me, I don’t see how they could possibly be useful in improving someone’s sex life. The point is that not everyone is down with having to resort to kinky methods to improve their sex lives. This is one of the reason why so many couples simply spend the rest of their marriages sexless.

But, there are a few ways to rejuvenate your sex life without having to get kinky:

1. Try to surprise your partner with the sudden desire for lovemaking. If your partner is doing something that is not really important, sneak up from behind and plant a kiss on the back of the neck and start sensually caressing him/her.

2. Use candles to illuminate the room sometimes. Candles very often enhance one’s romantic desires. It works even better if the candles are scented.

3. Play soft music during a love session. Soft jazz or ambient music works best.

4. Don’t use the bedroom all the time. Try the living room couch sometimes. Or, when your partner is taking a shower, surprise him/her by jumping in to “bathe” one another.

5. Try giving one another a sensual full-body massage in the nude, giving special concentration to the buttocks and pelvic areas. When working your partner’s back, instead of kneeling by his/her side, straddle the buttocks. Rub very slowly and passionately.

6. Whenever away from one another, send each other erotic text messages explaining what you’re going to do to each other later. And make sure you stick to the plan.

7. Every so often, rent a nice suite in a high-rise hotel overlooking the city. Turn the lights out in the room and use the night lights outside to illuminate the room.

8. Take vacations to island resorts. Island environs have been said to bring out one’s sexual desires. Places like Hawaii, Tahiti and Phuket, Thailand are the best.

Soon, you’ll be able to come up with more interesting non-kinky ways to improve yours and your partner’s sex life.