Action Sammy’s Dating Tips: Proper Oral Sex

If you were to ask for a show of hands of all of those who know how to orally please a partner, you’ll get a lot of hands. Yet, if you ask for a show of hands of those who are truthfully, honestly satisfied with the way their partners orally pleasure them you’ll receive far less hands. Now why is that? Obviously, because many of us aren’t really doing what we’re suppose to be doing down there. And just as many of us aren’t being bold enough to tell our partners that they’re doing it wrong.

Although held by many as the most important thing in a relationship, sex also tends to be the hardest topic to bring up. Most people are just plain shy and embarrassed about bringing it up, regardless of the situation. And if most are quite shy about bringing up sex, the thought of discussing oral sex can be downright intimidating. We all like the feeling of our most sensitive areas being orally pleasured but the very mature of it make s it an embarrassing topic to bring up.

But as awkward and weird as it may sound, some people really do have to be thought the art of oral stimulation. It is not always as easy as one may think. The same technique that worked on a previous partner isn’t guaranteed to work on your current lover. And even when told by a lover that their technique isn’t working some have given up in frustration without fully satisfying their partners.

There are also those of us who lose complete control of ourselves while performing this highly delicate maneuver. Man like to be extremely aggressive and forget that if done improperly, oral sex can be quite painful.

Here are some important things to remember, whether you’re on the giving or receiving end:

1. When performing oral sex on your partner, always start off very slowly and gently. Remember that this is the most sensitive part of the body. The wrong amount of sensation can be painful. Avoid making any contact with the skin with your teeth.
2. Remember that the purpose of oral sex is stimulate your partner, not you. Although you should certainly enjoy is as much as he/she loves receiving it, this is about your partner and what turns your partner on. So, if he/she asks that you touch or kiss them in certain way then that is how you should do it. It is supposed to given the way your partner likes it, not the way you like giving it.
3. Don’t be shy about telling or even teaching your partner how to orally stimulate you. This is your body and you have every right to determine how and where to touch and kiss.
4. Be prepared for the possibility that your tried and true method may not work on your current lover. What turned a previous partner on may totally turn off your current lover.
5. Be patient while performing oral sex. Expect to have to be down there for a while. Not everyone is the same. While it may have taken only 2 minutes to get another partner aroused, it could take as long as 30 minutes or even longer with another. Once again, this is about pleasing your partner, not you.