Adult Games: Foreplay

“Anyone who says that gratuitous sex is no substitute for gratuitous violence obviously hasn’t had enough gratuitous sex.” Geoff Spear

Sex is not just about few inches; it is much deeper extending to the soul and heart. It has to be preceded by proper channels in order to have the utmost physical pleasure.

The term foreplay sounds simple and easy but it is the one which makes all the difference between making love and forcing lust. As confessed quiet boldly by Norman Mailer “One thing I’ve learned in all these years is not to make love when you really don’t feel it; there’s probably nothing worse you can do to yourself than that.“

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Foreplay is not just sexual / hormonal arousal before the intercourse; it is a journey of emotions influencing an individual mentally, physically and sexually; preparing him/her for the much desired act. It is like unfolding your true self and your weird fantasies. If just a simple penetration could do the trick then why would people spend loads on sexy night wears and dildos or even enjoy being hurt during the process.

Psychologically, foreplay lowers inhibitions and enhances the comfort zone of the partners. Sexually, it stimulates the process of erection in males, empowering them to penetrate the vagina. In females it stimulates the process of lubrication for easy penetration and also stimulates the process of raising the cervix, lengthening it further. 

Foreplay usually begins from non physical gestures, these include all actions that indicate a desire to have a sexual act extending from provocative attire to sexual conversation; and can be initiated from either sex. It is just us the Homo sapiens, gifted with a mind capable of stimulating our entire biology with a mere sight of intimacy.

Later as intimacy progresses, physical aspect comes into play for instance kissing, hugging, tickling etc followed by more sexual behaviours such as deep tongue kissing known as French kissing, groping (touching or massaging sexual areas over clothing), striping or dry humping.

Finally, comes in the direct manipulation of the cervix and vulva in females and penis and scrotum in males, nipples in case of both sexes. It can be done with mouth, hands, feet or feathers, vibrators.

As couples move closer and closer the foreplay tends to be more and more intense, it is at its peak just before the penetration of the penis into the vagina. Practically, it may continue with intercourse as well; as couples usually continue foreplay even during the intercourse to express their sexual aggression. It may extend in the form of cuddling and kissing after the act too.

Foreplay, though an integral part for everyone; varies dramatically from individual to individual based on age, religion and culture. Researches prove that on an average, men and women spend almost the same time for sexual stimulation – about 10 minutes. So it is quiet debatable to promote the feminine demand of a longer foreplay.