Asexual Tendencies

It has been requested that I discuss sex, from my friends and also the people I’ve newly met on my independent strive… and seems to always prop up often in discussion, but I’m never ashamed to explain, though it can seem long-winded. Also, what is included within this ‘answer’ is sex with a girl and / or boy, so I don’t get those questions anymore either.

Importantly, the best way to approach this topic is to first describe how I sexually identify and then go on and discuss my views in general.

The primary term that I use to identify myself in a sexual context, is Asexual, I’ve never actually met someone where I’ve had the reaction that I’d like to have sex with them, just a close connection involving some intimacy.

There’s definitely attractions that take place, but there is not an attraction where the end result is to have sex.

So to describe this attraction, I’d probably say that I’m predominately asexual, people say that sexual activity has the potential to occur as an end result.

Admittedly I’d never completely rule out the possibility, it just never has seem that attractive to me, or worth pursueing or doing at all.

The more I think about it however, sex can really seem mundane to me.

So I’d prefer to steer the topic to something else… something that is sometimes intertwined with sex.

(Although they are not really the same thing).

And this is the concept of ‘romantic love’.

The ‘can’t eat’ ‘can’t sleep’ ‘can’t breathe’… hard, pounding example of romantic love.

Now romantic love has many legitimasing factors in our current method relationship structures who people that think they need to have a boyfriend or girlfriend and any given time.

(I see this at times as being naive.. shame really, although I do envy the feeling).

And then eventually that boyfriend or girlfriend warps into something like a marriage

…(where you have a spouse)…

Where you live together happy ever after and having various children.

Just to grow up, go out and get fucked and do the whole god damn thing over again.

(Yet, getting ‘fucked’ as in getting drunk is amusing).

As you might’ve noticed, I’m not fond of routine, lol.