Assessing The Lust Factor in Your Relationship
by Long-term sexual relationships demand imagination and energy. Your bodies may no longer supply the surprises that lit the first spark when you first “did” it. So, you have to be really clever and creative to keep the passion alive.
Assess your sexual relationship, which may have been going on for some months or years. We don’t expect ennui to set in within weeks. Rate your sex quotient and see if passion is on the wane. The following list may help you.
High ratings if:
- You make love every night you’re together.
- You have orgasm often.
- He wakes you up from sleep to make love in the middle of the night—and loves it when you wake him.
- He arrives a unexpected hours to seize you and throw you to the bed.
Falling ratings if:
- You make love dutifully, quickly, and not as often as you used to when you first became lovers.
- One or both of you can watch television while making love.
- You’ve settled into one position.
- He no longer exclaims over your lovely breasts, the way you wiggle your hips, how you stroke him, etc.
- One would occasionally say, “I’m too tired. In the morning (or tomorrow) maybe.”
Low ratings if:
- You offered him a choice of beer or you, and he picked up the beer.
- He used your panty to polish his shoes.
- His head swivels every time another woman passes by.
- You make love once a week, or the week passed and you haven’t made love yet.
- He asks what you are doing when you try something unexpected in bed.
Danger ratings if:
- You make love once a year—on your or his birthday.
- You make love once a year – on his mother’s birthday.
- He’s suggested you meet other men.
- One or both of you fall asleep in front of the television or video film every night.
- He’s blatantly ogling porn again.
- You fall asleep during sex.
If your man is making love to you at least once a day, flipping you into different creative positions each time, and you are responding with endless quivers of ecstasy, read no more. You don’t need this article. But if you’ve noticed any depreciation listed in the lower ratings, plow ahead. It’s not too late to rekindle lust.
Don’t give up on a sexual relationship you still want unless (1) the man has gone and left you for good, (2) he doesn’t speak to you, or (3) he’s paralyzed from waist down. Lust can be revived in all other cases—if you try and really desire him. Even in the dire instance that a man makes love to you once a year—on you birthday, hope flickers: He still remembers your birthday! Bring back the zest, or else move on and find your real match.
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