Basic Instinct – Sexual Attraction

Remember your teenage years? Sweaty palms and racing heart beat,

the essence of attraction. Out in the horizon, way beyond pheromones and hormones, lays the key question: what attracts people to one another?

More over, what keeps them together?

Famous couples throughout history have proved the overly used cliché “opposites attract”, on the other hand, mutual interest could be a major milestone in long term relationships.

Seems like the most successful couples are the ones that integrate a well balanced dosage of Yin & Yang. Yin & Yang are codependent; one can not exist without the other. A day couldn’t exist in absence of night; light could not be defined as such, if it wasn’t for darkness.

Basing our relationships on strong foundations is an important task, so what’s attraction got to do with it??

Intellectual attraction: doesn’t refer to knowledge or wisdom but rather to conceptual stimulation. Your ideal partner could be a person that can spend two hours discussing the SOPRANOS or someone that has an intriguing point of view about the Da Vinci code, whatever it is, the attraction is originated in intellectual sensation.

Physical attraction: need we say more? Physical attraction is probably the most direct one of all, nonetheless, it could be absolutely surprising. On top of the basics, hence, attractive looks means slimcurvy body, blondbrunette hair, lightdark complexion etc’, physical attraction is influenced by acquired taste thus, we could find someone not so attractive today, but we might see him differently within a year.

Mental attraction: starts with affection. You immediately feel a warm fuzzy feeling of connection to the person you just met. This attraction could evolve into a romantic love or stay in friendship mode.

Spiritual attraction: what is your perspective of life? Being spiritually attracted to a person has nothing to do with your religious beliefs and everything to do with your awareness to your body, your mind and the world in general.

The need to find a partner for life, long turned into a successful matchmaking business. Everywhere you look there’s a website, an ad in the paper, speed dating course or a seminar on “how to find your soul mate in less than a week”…

So how do you really find that special someone?

Let’s start with the subconscious factor. Men are globally attracted to young, fertile women, that includes nicely shaped pelvis & thighs, full lips and gentle facial features.

Women prefer a fairly buff body, wide shoulders, clear complexion and a firm chin; these features will indicate potency and good genes.

Needless to say, wealth and intelligence are always highly appreciated.

stepping away from “fantasyland”, most of us don’t get to pick the exact “weird science” product for a life partner, we enter the game equipped with a certain number on a scale, in other words, we are looking for a partner with similar levels of looks, intelligence, financialsocial status etc’.

What about the less obvious factors in the “game of love”?

A fascinating genetic study that was conducted in a university in Austin, TX reveals that attraction is based on specific sets of genes, Major Histocompatibility Complex:MHC.

This specific set of genes protects us from pathogens or partners with similar MHC, as the “right” partner will bring a very different set than ours.

The study shows that we subconsciously choose partners with a suitable MHC, by using our sense of smell, hence, instincts are never wrong.

How, if so, do we pick the wrong partner, or fall madly in love with someone over one night of hot sexual encounter?

There is a scientific answer. Hormone replacement therapy, contraceptives

or any external source of hormones that we consume, can alter our decisions and make us pursue the wrong mate.

As for love post sex? During intercourse the brain releases Oxytocin, a hormone that among other things makes us feel loved and fertile.

In conclusion, the road to companionship is full of different options and choices, making the right decision equals happiness. Good luck!