Can a Marriage Survive Sex Addiction? Part Three
Can A Marriage Survive Sex Addiction?
According to Dr. Drew Pin sky, Sex Addiction Specialist, yes, a marriage can survive sex addiction if both members are committed. In fact, sometimes there has to be a period of separation in order for the couple to miss each other and test their love.
During the second half of the Oprah Winfrey show today, Jonathan, a married guy from Texas, said he admitted to his wife about masturbating with a magazine.While he admits that porn is thrilling at the moment, it also comes with excess baggage such as the guilt and shame. While married to his wife, he admitted to having sex with about 50 women. His explanation for his behavior is that he grew up in a Christian home.
Porn is a sexual addiction where one’s own desires are more important than anything else. For most guys, it is hard to connect emotionally and this is what happened in Jonathan’s case. For a lot of guys, sex is a way of connecting too because they might be too scared to get close to anyone.
According to Dr. Pin sky, one of out three women are using Internet pornography. He also states that sex addicts are lonely and ashamed.
When sex addicts join rehab, they must sign a celibacy contract. “No porn, no toys and no touching not even yourself. No sex period. During this time, cameras follow them and record them. “When you had an orgasm and you have that feeling,” it’s in your brain. So when you no longer have this release, it feels weird.” said Phil.
During Sex Addiction Rehab, many women talk about their painful childhood traumas with Dr. Pin sky. For some people, sex is like a drug. According to statistics, approximately 16,000 people in this world suffer from some type of sex addiction while 90% of the sex addicts suffer from some type of trauma.
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Mr Ghaz
On November 23, 2009 at 9:39 pm
very well-written and informative article..thanks fro the lesson..cheers
livemike
On November 23, 2009 at 9:46 pm
This is one of mankinds greatest problems..Porn is destroying the worlds mind..orgasm and love are not the same!!
Authoress Terry E. Lyle
On November 23, 2009 at 9:50 pm
That’s a great article, I just saw yesterday on Lifetime a movie about this woman who was a sex addicted. Her problem stemmed from being molested as a child, and she felt sex was associated with being loved, after consultations with a therapist she learned that the reason she couldn’t stop herself was because she wasn’t use to saying the word NO!!! and have some respect that and stop. But while she was still addicted before her sessions and treatment worked she kept hoping that thru the lies that the men were telling her was the fact that she really wanted some one to validate her instead of using her, she was tired of being ashamed but didn’t know how to love herself and stop listening her own guilt because she couldn’t stop the men that were being aggressive, and they made her feel special even thou briefly.
sweet sunshine143
On November 23, 2009 at 9:54 pm
Live mike,
I totally agree with you. My part 3 gets published before Part 2. thanks:)
sweet sunshine143
On November 23, 2009 at 9:55 pm
Authoress Terry,
Thanks for sharing. Wow! unbelievable story. Hopefully, therapy helped her deal with her self- esteem issues.
Teves
On November 23, 2009 at 10:21 pm
Yeah sex makes you addic…I love sex everyday! Sex is instinc…If you dont love sex you are abnormal person.
sweet sunshine143
On November 23, 2009 at 10:25 pm
Thanks for sharing Teves:)
Rinks Desai
On November 23, 2009 at 11:09 pm
Thanks for sharing this
jimbob1
On November 24, 2009 at 1:49 am
This is a very informative article…I’m sorry that I missed Part I and Part II…where can I find them? That is one of the problems with the internet…we are being bombarded by porn images and porn sites and it is having a definite impact on the degradation of our society. It also leaves those involved or hooked with a skewed view of what love is realy all about. Thanks…looking forward to finding the previous two parts of this series.
abhishek40914
On November 24, 2009 at 2:48 am
nice article
shanthu
On November 24, 2009 at 8:15 am
well said article…thanks for the share
diamondpoet
On November 24, 2009 at 11:44 am
When on person requires more sex then the other there is bound to be conflict, and infidelity.
sweet sunshine143
On November 24, 2009 at 4:46 pm
Keep the comments coming. I love debate.
Victoria Prater
On November 25, 2009 at 7:50 am
My husband and I not only survived his porn addiction but working through it made us stronger. For a look at how we did this check out our book called \”Love and Pornography\”.
Victoria
sweet sunshine143
On November 26, 2009 at 1:17 am
This is great to hear Victoria. Thanks for your comment.
vijjus
On November 28, 2009 at 3:52 am
Thanx for sharing this nice article
Monica Sappleton
On January 24, 2010 at 12:46 am
I believe that while there are some people who have genuine problems with the balancing of their hormones, most the others with this “quote – unquote” sex addiction are just looking for a way to cover up their lust and lack of self control. Yet, a marriage can survive this and many of the other external attacks that have been fired against it. There is more details on this here:
http://www.ehow.com/how_4996556_build-rock-solid-marriage.html
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