Dig a Dud: Five Ways to Improve His Bedroom Prowess

Not everyone can be a genius in bed. Some people just don’t have the experience… and let’s be honest, some people just don’t have the talent. For those without the experience, the good news is they can learn and possibly be great. For those without the talent…you’re going to need a really nice guy, smart, roses every day and a lot of other brilliant characteristics to make up for it.

Sex isn’t everything, but once you select a partner to settle down with, that’s who you’re having it with for the rest of your life. So choose wisely.

So what happens if you made your choice and he just isn’t up to scratch? He’s got all the right bits, they seemingly work, he’s just clumsy, nervous, fumbly and has absolutely no understanding of the human anatomy. Project! It’s time to get coaching!

1. Let him explore

First and foremost get him familiar with the female form. Let’s call it ‘playing doctors and nurses’! Let him be the doc, and let him examine you all over. For the initial exams, let him ask you questions, touch and feel, and see what happens. As it progresses, let it get a little more sexy!

2. Be bossy

Once the caring and sharing or exploration is over, it’s time to just say what you want and how you want it. Don’t be afraid to be a little bossy, if it’s not love making, just a scratch for an itch, someone usually takes control in the bedroom — by default it’s going to be you! Instruct and direct, move him and how you need to and show him how it’s done.

3. Positive reinforcement and constructive criticism

Once you’ve reached a point where everything is getting a little more on track, start to perfect and refine. Use tips, tricks and constructive criticism to let him know how to improve. Use positive reinforcement when he hits the spot and gets it right. We’re not talking doggy treats here, we’re talking those telltale signs that make a guy feel king! A little scratch, scrunching up the bed sheets, or a moan will definitely do the job!

4. Use tools

Don’t be afraid to up the training once you both get comfortable, or introduce a little assistance. Get some sex toys — ticklers, teasers — to do the hard work for him. Set him up and let him knock you down! Be adventurous and encourage him to be too – after all, by this stage you’ve almost taken him from zero to hero in a few short steps!

5. The right models

Watching porn is pretty normal for guys, when single or if their partner allows it — or doesn’t know! Problem is, for guys who have little or no real experience in the bedroom, that’s what they base their moves on! Tell him to get rid of the porn and explain that the moves they use are purely for visual stimulation, and while some might work, others are awkward, painful or derogatory. Instead, teach him the real moves yourself!