This is a question that many of us ask our selves from time to time- some people think that they are brilliant in bed, and that might be true but it doesn’t necessarily mean that you have a healthy sex life. You could be built like a God or Goddess and know all of the tricks of the trade- but do you and your partner satisfy each other and keep each other happy? Take this short questionnaire to find out whether or not YOU have a healthy sex life.

1. How often do you have sex?

a) At least once a day

b) One or two times a week

c) A few times a month

d) Not very often

2. Do you masturbate?

a) Sometimes

b) Often

c) Only with my partner

d) Never

3. What type of lover do you consider yourself to be?

a) Traditional

b) Romantic

c) Experimental

d) Average

4. Are you open to trying new things in the bedroom?

a) Yes- I always like to try new things with my partner

b) Yes- within reason

c) I’m not sure

d) No- I prefer old fashioned missionary

5. Does your partner satisfy you?

a) Always

b) Most times

c) Rarely

d) Never

6. Do you fantasise about other people whilst with your partner intimately?

a) No- never

b) Occasionally

c) Most times

d) Always

7. Are you confident about your body?

a) Yes- definitely

b) Somewhat

c) Not really

d) Not at all

8. Do you try to make sure your partner is fully satisfied every time?

a) Yes- of course

b) Most times- If I’m not too tired

c) Rarely

d) No

9. Do you enjoy sex?

a) I love it!

b) Most of the time

c) Not always

d) Not really

10. Lights on or off?

a) On!

b) Either, doesn’t matter

c) I don’t know

d) Off

If you answered mostly a’s… You have a healthy sex life, congratulations! You and your partner are open and honest with each other, and you both always strive to make sure that you are fully satisfied- you don’t need any help with your sex life!

If you answered mostly b’s… You have a pretty good sex life, you and your partner could try being a little bit more experimental with each other- you don’t want to loose the sizzle out of your chemistry do you? Try a little role play to spice things up a bit!

If you answered mostly c’s… Oh dear, your sex life has seen better days hasn’t it? It’s not that you don’t enjoy it, but you seem to have lost your mojo. Arrange a romantic evening in with your partner- candles, bubble bath and rose petals… the whole thing, and give a sensual massage to get your partner in the mood. Don’t be afraid to try new things!

If you answered mostly d’s… Oh no! Your sex life is seriously unhealthy! If you carry on like this, then your partner is going to look else where for satisfaction! You need to address the reason why you seem to dislike sex so much- try counselling and talking to your partner. Communication is key here!