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Do You Need a Sex Toy?

Its now official. The relevance of marriage is threatened by sex toys, sex gadgets that we can not compete with. Do you need one?

‘My wife wants nothing to do with me after she bought a sex toy.’ The story is the same the world over. Like in Terminator III, machines have taken over the bedroom; technology is now ruling our lives. Many marriages are on the rock and relationships keep breaking with each passing day. Couples are no longer capable of satisfying each other and now have resorted to other ways of doing so. Do we need these gadgets, do we need sex toys?

I wouldn’t be bothered if a single woman were to have a dozen vibrators in her locker to use them whenever the craving strikes, I wouldn’t mind if a single man, unable to establish a long term relationship with a daughter of the land were to have as many sex toys as possible, but for a married man or woman to hang onto these gadgets is totally unacceptable. I may be considered a little old fashioned, I may be considered lout of touch with reality but I think its time couples opened up to each other, its time married men and women spend more time together in order to avoid this technological takeover.

A human being can not compete effectively with a machine. A sex toy never gets tired, a sex toy never has a headache, a sex toy is never nagging, moody or outright impossible to deal with. It’s easy to control and would be perfect if all one needed was sex. But is sex all that matters in a relationship? Does sex mean everything to us?

After a long days work we need someone just to talk to, someone to lean on and sometimes we need someone to massage our taut features. All these can not be expected from a sex toy. All these can not be gotten from some gadget however expensive and that is where human to human relations take over.

Couples must learn to cultivate the kind of relationship that will survive the death of sexual intimacy. They must learn to be there for better or worse and that means living up to the reality of life without frequent sex.

Owning sex toys points to only one of the problems a couple are having. It may be that their bedroom life needs a little spicing, but then, isn’t this lack of spicing merely a symptom of a deeper problem, an underlying problem that needs better solution? Of course it does.

Rushing for a sex toy shall not solve the fact that your wife always has a chronic headache, buying a sex toy shall not solve the problem of your husband always coming home drunk in the middle of the night. Only communication can, only honest communication can solve the underlying problems that make couples behave awkwardly and therefore become intolerant with each other. Buying a sex gadget will only complicate an already complicated situation, it will only worsen a situation that would have been salvaged had communication channels been opened.

Personally, I do not need a sex toy; I will never need a sex gadget for I didn’t marry for sex in the first place. If all I needed were sex and lots of it, I wouldn’t have to search for anyone to stay with day in day out. Yes, I would buy a toy or rent a brothel to satisfy my insatiable appetite.

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  1. diamondpoet

    On April 27, 2010 at 3:57 pm


    I think buying a sex toy is just like say your mate isn’t man enough or he can’t keep up. If you could only hear some of the stories I heard In the beauty palor, woman love their sex toys. I guess I am old fashioned and still just appreciate the art of sex. Good post.

  2. LoveDoctor

    On April 27, 2010 at 4:07 pm


    This is a very well-written and humorous article. I really enjoyed your introduction as well. Your article just reminded me of the original rabbit vibrator as seen on one of the episodes of Sex and the City. However, you do have to please your partner. If you are married and he or she likes the idea of a sex toy it might actually spice up your love life and add some adventure in the bedroom. For those who are single and haven’t had a partner in a long time, it can actually help you get to know your body more in terms of what you like and what turns you on. If your partner is really self-conscious, the will be threatened by these gadgets, therefore, try stroking his ego a bit more. He might feel that he isn’t doing a good job and might make him insecure. Bottom line, throw away the sex toys and focus on your partner.

  3. LoveDoctor

    On April 27, 2010 at 4:11 pm


    LOL @ diamond.

  4. VTech

    On April 27, 2010 at 7:29 pm


    Good Post

  5. Atanacio

    On April 27, 2010 at 7:41 pm


    A Sex toy? Yeah lets see one of those Vibrators grab a woman and say whose your daddy.. or a plastic blow up rock a man out naw live flesh .. oh wait whats this have to do with this fun and well written article? Good Job

  6. Tulan

    On April 27, 2010 at 10:04 pm


    I think they are not for a normal married couple. Why would anyone want one? I can understand if there was a health risk but not otherwise.

  7. sara20

    On April 28, 2010 at 5:01 am


    i like it, well writing skill.

  8. gaby7

    On April 28, 2010 at 5:35 am


    With the arrival of these toys, the institution of marriage seems to be approaching its doomsday! How sad!

  9. drelayaraja

    On April 28, 2010 at 5:51 am


    Nice share..

  10. maeraquel

    On April 28, 2010 at 6:26 am


    sex toys are ok if you use it together..hihi

  11. wonder

    On April 28, 2010 at 8:49 am


    Wow! A unique post, did not know this. Endorsed your ideas.

  12. Vikram Chhabra

    On April 28, 2010 at 11:45 am


    People are obsessed with sex and fail to nurture more caring and loving relationships…

  13. Steve Weitzner

    On May 4, 2010 at 3:39 pm


    Sex toys can be ok sometimes, but couples need to make love too each other as well.
    Still awesome article.

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