Understanding how a woman thinks sometimes is the largest obstacle for males, who mainly think about one thing.  They do not think like us.   I sat down with my wife for this article, and she gave me an earful.  It is awesome how much we can learn if we put our minds to it, our mouths shut and just listen.

1. Just because most women do not think or talk about sex all the time does not mean they are not interested and should not be perceived as rejection.  Woman love sex but they are different creatures than men.  They think, feel and love a lot different than we do.  Be open to learning your woman, and how she thinks as a lover.  My wife often tells me that the biggest foreplay for a woman is for a man to help out around the house, without being asked, or of me reminding her when we I do something extra to help out.
2. Do not approach sex with her when she is stressed out.  Stress is a sex killer for woman.  For a man sex can be a stress reliever.  To get her in the mood, ask what you can do to help out with her stress.  A woman needs to feel connected to you on a spiritual level before you even crack the doors of the bedroom.  She needs that emotional connection before the big event.  Most men are sex machines and can be turned on by just brushing up against their mate.  The woman is a little bit more complex.  But do not give up men.  The prize is worth the work. 
3. A night out, without the kids can make your wife a better lover.  She needs to have a life of enjoyment by herself now and again.  Give her what she needs.  This will make her want to please you.  Oh yeah, they are our kids too.  Connect with your kids before they are grown and gone, but that is fodder for another article.
4. Do not give any other woman the once over with your eyes when you are with your mate.  I know it is ok to look, we are just human, just do not do it with your wife around.  This makes her feel less important and that you are interested in someone else.  Give her your full attention.  She is your queen and you must make her feel this way.  If you love her this way you will not regret it.  Do it for the right motives though.  Do it because it is the right thing to do and not what you can get out of it.  She will love and respect you for being a true man and unselfish lover and will probably reward you handsomely in the process. 
5. The biggest danger you will face is connecting with another woman.  Avoid it like the plague.  A handsome number of great couples have been destroyed by a friendship that turned sexual.  Your marriage is worth anything to avoid its destruction.  See the warning signs with another woman,  do not flirt and lead on another, you may just fall big time and never recover your true lover.