Gender: Pink/Blue Boxes & Sexual Orientation

When we start out, shortly after birth we are placed by the people who love us, our parents, into either a BLUE or PINK box. Repeat after me, we are placed into only one of two boxes, early on – and that choice is made simply upon genitalia. If you have an inny, you get the pink box; and outy gets you the blue one. That is social gender assignment, based on whether you have a penis or a vagina only. It is as simple as that and has been done that way for a long, long time and is done throughout the world like that. As a infant child, it is relatively easy to be in one box or another – it really makes little difference in the early stages.

Some stuff happens around 6-10 years of age, mostly you form the concept of what adult relationships look like and you will likely follow that pattern as an adult. At this time, you might wander a little away from your box colour – but not too far. Girls playing only with Lego and cars are still not really that far from the pink box – most often they took toys from the blue box but still play with them “pink”. Same goes for boys – they may play with toys from the pink box, but they play with them in a “blue” fashion.

Now for the big explosion – and where the waters get muddy for most mainstream people. That take place around 10 to 16 as we are figuring out sex. There, I said the word, sex, because that causes all the confusion when gender is brought up. The muddiness comes in here because we tie sex to everything. So it is at this time, 10-16, often deals with experimentation and self discovery that we look at the new options (or they “present” themselves to us).

So here are your variables – the ones you have placed before you as a teenager.

Gender:

You are in either a Blue or Pink box, based on social assignment at birth based upon genitalia. Boys are in Blue boxes, Girls are in Pink boxes. This one is simple and we use it to figure out the next thing.

Attracted to which box?

Sexual Orientation:

Heterosexual:

If you are in a Blue box, you need to be sexually attracted to people only in the Pink box. If you are in a Pink box, you need to be sexually attracted to the people only in the Blue Box. – this is the social “norm”, it is what the bulk of the population does. You can play with toys from either box BUT not too much or too far, because of this other bit of sexual orientation, called (dun,dun,daaaaa);