How to Achieve Orgasm
by This article is written by a Registered Nurse in response to the numerous questions which were asked on yahoo answer. From now on the author will be able to refer persons with this problem to this article. I hope it satisfies many frustrated readers. I hope some achieve their first orgasm after reading this article.
Many women do not achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse. I hope this does not come as a shock to readers. This occurs because the location of the clitoris is not conducive to orgasm during the sexual act. It is for this reason that each couple must be in a trusting relationship.
When a female does not reach orgasm she should be comfortable telling her partner to stimulate her manually. Manual stimulation can be done either during or prior to the sexual act. It can also be done after sexual intercourse when the male has reached orgasm. Last but not least you can stimulate yourself manually during intercourse. Other alternatives to the sexual act include lovemaking to toys, oral sex, manual stimulation and use of vibrators.
Some people are not able to achieve orgasm because of the lack of sex hormones and related medical problems. Hence, the first step is to have a physical evaluation to make sure that there is no medical problem. Low hormone levels and poor blood circulation to the sexual organs predispose individuals to fail in reaching an orgasm.
Some women experience a lack of natural lubrication. If this happens there is nothing to worry about. Many different types of lubricants are available. Lack of lubrication can make sexual experience painful.
One theory states that women fail to reach orgasm because there is insufficient blood reaching the clitoris. Again, this is only a theory. Men who have reduced circulation to their penis will have problems with his erection. Reduced blood supply to the clitoris can prevent it from becoming properly engorged. If the clitoris does not become engorged it cannot bring about orgasm as we know it.
Reduced circulation to the female clitoris may be caused by certain medical conditions, medications or surgeries. Some patients will benefit from prolonged stimulation or more intense stimulation. Others do not benefit from these interventions. Some researchers are experimenting with topical and oral medications to enhance blood flow to the vagina and clitoris. Additionally, there is an FDA approved vacuum device that can help with this by increasing the blood flow.
Physical exercises have been shown to improve blood flow to the clitoris in some women. So having sex after exercising increases lubrication, increases arousal time and brings about orgasm sooner. Exercising has other cardiovascular benefits too.
Some medications increase arousal time. However, many medications are sedating and reduce blood flow to sex organs. Consequently, if you are on medications you may experience depressed desire for sex. Many anti-depressants significantly reduce a woman’s ability to reach orgasm.
Lastly, if a female suffers from a mental blockage to reach orgasm she will never be able to achieve it until she receives appropriate treatment. Sex therapy may be the only choice for such patients. The good news is that very few females suffer from this condition. Thank God.
Self stimulation of the clitoris is a legitimate way of achieving orgasm. When everything else fails then it may be appropriate to use sex toys to achieve an orgasm. To read more about sex toys, hormones and vibrators click: http://healthmad.com/women/sex-hormones-vibrators-and-more/
Peace and quiet are essentil to achieving orgasm for most people. Others are very good at tuning out interferring sounds.
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Post CommentShergill
On July 20, 2009 at 4:20 pm
Men want to get in and out quickly.
Guy Hogan
On July 22, 2009 at 6:34 pm
As a man I have always been fascinated with the female orgasm. I wrote a short story about it on Triond: http://www.authspot.com/Short-Stories/Orgasm.869803
One way for a man to show his love and care and appreciate for a woman is to participate in her orgasm.
http://www.writinghood.com/online-writing/this-is-the-reason-why-i-write-so-much-about-sex-on-triond/ is one of my popular items on Triond.
Shergill
On July 24, 2009 at 5:54 am
Hi Guy Hogan,
Not all men are as caring and as supportive as you are. I know the bar scene. It still talks of women as sex objects. I feel that I cannot express what I hear for it may offend many of our colleagues and women.
I am positive enough to note that there are improvements is men’s attitude toward women.
vjsinduja
On September 4, 2010 at 10:06 am
Most men just want to go in n come out once they’ve ejaculated. I am telling this coz, I know a friend who engaged in sex with her BF, and she had the same probs. She used to tell me her probs n worry about. Men should realize that women to have feelings n should give importance to them .