Maybe you think you’ve seen it all, you’ve heard it all, and you’ve read it all, but not quite, there a just a few more things you have to know to be the perfect lover.Remember, two bodies coming together, both filled with desires of a sexual nature, are about to create a work of Art that no one will ever duplicate, because it’s yours and only yours, so don’t rush this work of Art. Touch your partner till he or she can’t take it anymore. They can no longer stand the feelings that seem to be overwhelming them. Remember, the two of you are creating a work of Art, not to be rushed, and in creating this work of Art, the two of you will find something in each other, that neither of you knew existed.

I don’t care what you have seen, or read. The truth be known, you may already be a good lover, but are you great? Are you an Artist, or just a guy with an erection looking for a woman to share sometime with, no matter the outcome? Not too many men can proclaim to be great lovers, as many men aren’t patient enough with their women to achieve this greatness, in or out of the bedroom. There can be many reasons why, but the most important reason is communication. A woman may see a hot looking man, or a man may see a hot looking woman, and think to himself, wow, I bet she’s good in bed. Just because someone looks good, doesn’t mean that they are good in bed or good sexually, it just means that your mind perceives them to be good or great because they appeal to your image of the perfect sexual partner. In fact, just because they look good, they may actually be no good in bed, or good sexually. Remember, when looking at the woman, who turns you on. You aren’t looking at her naked, she’s dressed, and with the fashions of today, some women look better dressed than undressed.

Why would anyone ever consider a woman not being good in bed or in having sex? My God, she’s so beautiful, how could anyone that beautiful, not be good in the bedroom or in the sexual acts that the two of you are trying to have? The reason is, that some women just lie on their backs, and don’t participate in the act of making love. They have no communication skills and they want the attention with the foreplay and such, but they really don’t participate all that much.

A woman who is considered good in bed gives as much as she receives. She doesn’t lay around waiting for the man to do what she likes, she is one step ahead of him and maybe even sometimes she takes the lead, which in turn encourages the man to take their love making a notch higher, as she seems to be the type of woman who wants to enjoy their love making and there-fore she’s not afraid to try new things. This type of woman is considered a good lover, if not a great lover, and don’t be too surprised, there aren’t that many women out there in this wide world of ours that a man could consider great. I don’t have any figures to quote, as none seem to exist, but the women vs. the men in being good lovers, is probably about even.

Here are some of the reasons why both men and women aren’t good in bed, or sexually good, and what you can do about it.

Women

Most women can be good in the sex department if they try and most importantly of all, if they are willing to express to the man, they are about to make love with, what it is that really turns them on. If a woman doesn’t become active in the love making process she won’t ever be a good lover, as it takes two to be great, no one person can achieve this alone. If you are open minded, and want your partner to last longer in the bedroom, and during your love making, give your man oral sex. That way a woman can be assured that he won’t ejaculate again, before she’s had time to become turned on. I won’t say this happens in all cases, but with most men in their mid 20’s and older, they rarely can have another ejaculation so quickly, as the first one.

Women have to open a new chapter in their lives. You are committed to having orgasms in double figures, never mind one or two orgasms, here and there, and more so, you’d like to squirt as well, and the only way you can achieve this is to advise the man you are about to sleep with, what it is that really turns you on. The one or two key things he can do to you that will send you over the edge of sexual pleasure, where ever that edge might be for you, as no two women are the same, no two women feel the same things, when it comes to sexual pleasures, and no two women get turned on the same way.

What you don’t allow him to do is penetrate you until you are ready, no matter what he says, you have to be the one who says when he enters your Vagina and you only let him do this when you feel that you will explode, if he doesn’t soon enter you. By this time you should be good and wet and you won’t feel the pain of his entering your Vagina. Not only that, but when he does enter you, you will most likely explode into a sexual world you never thought existed and as the two of you continue to explore each other’s bodies your excitement should continue to grow. Your legs might feel numb from so many orgasms, as it’s been known to happen to more women than I can count.

I can’t start to tell you how many times I’ve heard these expressions. “He doesn’t take his time and he hurts me because he enters me, and I’m not wet enough to enjoy sex with him”. More so, it seems that I have a hard time lubricating, what can we do except use a lubricant? I’m just getting hot and I feel him exploding inside of me. I end up watching him roll over and falling to sleep and where am I? Lying alongside of him, the man I love, but I didn’t even have a chance to have an orgasm. I feel used, and somewhat betrayed by my man, as he takes care of his needs and seems to forget about mine. What’s wrong with me?

There’s nothing wrong with you, you just have allowed these things to continue far too long, and now you that you are in control, you won’t be saying that you aren’t satisfied, you can’t get wet, that he hurts you, that you fall to sleep crying because you are so frustrated.

Sadly this happens to many women, and they go through life wondering if they will ever have orgasms or more than one orgasm. They often wonder why they didn’t try out more guys even though, out of the bedroom, their men are as good as they come.

This may sound way out, but don’t judge it too quickly

If you know that you are going to make love on a particular day or night and want to be sure you will be wet enough to enjoy this great pleasure, then take care of yourself by trying this method. Insert a Dildo in your Vagina and leave it there all day long. Every time you walk, sit down, stand up, go out for lunch with the girls, that Dildo will move inside you, making you wetter than you have ever known, and most importantly your greatest sex organ, your brain, will be working over-time trying to anticipate the up-coming evening. I assure you by the time you get home from work, you will be so wet you could have vaginal juices running down your legs.

The best thing about this method is that it really does work, and not just because the Dildo is inside you and moving, but the sheer thought that you are having lunch with a bunch of office workers and none of them have any idea that every time you move, that Dildo moves too, and it’s nearly driving you crazy with desire. You are trying not to smirk, but goodness it’s so hard not too. You’re office friends, don’t have a clue as to how you are feeling right now, and the only thing you can think of is leaving work and going home.

Our brains are powerful tools and our greatest sex organs, and if a woman were to tempt herself long before she has intercourse, for sure she will be more than satisfied, as she hasn’t waited for a man to turn her on, she’s taken care of it herself.

If for example you have a dress and pantyhose on, there’s no way for anyone to know that you have a Dildo between your legs, deep inside your Vagina, and with every movement you get a tingling up your back that’s about to make you explode with sheer delight. There is ONE very important fact about this idea of having a Dildo inside your Vagina all day long. Don’t EVER use an Electric Dildo as no man can compete with an Electric Dildo, (one that vibrates) as no man is Electric and they do get tired.

Your day at the office is finished and you are on your way home and my God, you can’t believe it, you are still getting wet, will it ever stop? Your man hasn’t a clue what you are doing, and now it’s time to get very serious with him and tell him every little fact that you think blows your mind away sexually, and by doing this you accomplish two things. One is, that he now knows what to do to you to drive you crazy with desire. Two, since you have opened up with him, you demand that he tells you what it is that drives him crazy sexually, and can you do it differently to give him greater sexual pleasure as we must not ever forget, it takes two to make love, and if both of you are thinking the same way, it’s rare that this method fails. When the two of you are finished, exhausted and wetter than you can ever remember, from having more orgasms than you can count, you can now roll over and fall into a deep sleep, thinking about the next time you will use that Dildo and come home so turned on that supper means nothing, it’s sex you have on the brain, and sex you will want because now you have found the key to getting turned on way beyond your wildest dreams.

Another good thought would be to call your man through the day and tell him what you are doing with your Dildo. Be sure to tell him how much it’s pleasing you and how you can’t wait to be in his arms. More so, to excite him even further, you might mention that when he makes love to you, it doesn’t have to be in the bedroom. The kitchen table will be fine; maybe even on the floor if he thinks he can handle it on the floor. Now you have challenged his manhood, so watch out, he may surprise you in more ways than one. His brain is now working overtime. He may not be able to wait for you to come home, he may come right to your work and ask you to leave with him, as teasing the brain of any man is a very powerful tool to be used with discretion.

Women can Squirt

I’ve heard women say, it’s all a myth. Women can’t squirt like a man ejaculates, but yes, they can and quite easily as well. It does take some practice from the man you are about to make love to, as this may all be very new to him. You might be surprised at how many men never even heard of a woman being able to squirt, never mind knowing how to make her squirt. Worse yet, not many men know where a woman’s G-Spot is. In order for you to squirt, he has to get an education on where your G-Spot is located and what to do with it once he finds it.

There are a few methods to helping a woman squirt, but I’ll only mention (two), as they are the simple ways. Women should be aware that they will feel as though they are about to urinate, but it’s not from the bladder, this squirting comes from, it’s the Vagina, so here we go.

Before you can squirt you have to be sexually ready, maybe even you’ve shared a few orgasms with your man, before you are ready to squirt so you explain it to him like this.

1. If he rubs your G-Spot from behind with his thumb or a finger, you will certainly squirt but he has to rub your G-spot briskly either back and forward, or up and down and to either side of your G-Spot. Sooner than you think you will feel the need to urinate, but just relax, and feel the most wonderful orgasm that you will ever experience. The many women I’ve experienced Squirting with, couldn’t believe the feeling that came over them and how drained they felt when they were finished squirting.
2. The second method to make a woman squirt also involves some love making before moving on to having one or more than one squirt, as it can happen more than once if the man’s arms doesn’t tire too easily. The woman lays on her back, her legs wide open. Her man then rubs the area between her Clitoris and either side of her legs.

Using this method isn’t as easily accomplished as the previous method of rubbing the G-Spot, but once the man gets used to it, he can make you squirt anytime he wants you to have the ultimate orgasm.

It may sound simple but don’t despair if it doesn’t happen for you right away. Sometimes, especially if the man isn’t experienced at making a woman squirt it can take longer than one would hope, but don’t stop trying as it will happen for you, and you may find yourself wanting your man to make you squirt, more than having regular orgasms. The feeling is that good many women have exclaimed, after experiencing their first and many squirts later.

A woman might ask, what if my man can’t find my G-Spot? If he puts a finger or his thumb in you from behind, he can’t miss it. All he has to do is push forward and the G-Spot is right there. It feels like a nut, coated with honey, which in reality are your vaginal juices, and the harder he rubs it, the more likely you will squirt. Sometimes in a matter of minutes depending on how hard or fast he rubs your G-Spot.

The man, the Artist

Maybe you don’t have a lot of experience when it comes to making love to a woman. Your biggest let down is yourself. It seems, that as soon as you get romantic with a woman, your underwear gets wet. You have had a pre-ejaculation. You feel ashamed. You certainly don’t want the woman to know, that even though the two of you were just fooling around, maybe you had your hand up her dress, or under her blouse and already you are wet. You know from past experience, that it won’t take much to make you ejaculate, and you really like this woman, the last thing you want to do is loose her because you are a poor lover.

Pre-ejaculations aren’t that un-common. Don’t feel bad, she probably had an orgasm or two, while the two of you were fooling around, but you won’t ever know it, as her orgasm was on the inside where you couldn’t see it, and she’s not about to tell you that she too experienced an orgasm, while the two of you played around. Women do have their own secrets, and if she did have an orgasm the better for you, as she will be wet before you enter her Vagina. The hardest part of all of this for you, the man with little experience, and the man who seems to ejaculate very quickly after entering the woman’s Vagina, is that you have no control, and you don’t know how to tell her. The two of you are having your first sexual experience and while you want it to be perfect, you are afraid that you will disappoint her, and you really don’t want to do that.

This is where the turning point in your love life takes a drastic turn. You tell her that you’d like her to give you oral sex, or at the very least for her to rub your penis till you ejaculate, then the two of you will experience better sex. Don’t be shy, she doesn’t want you to ejaculate fast either, so she’s probably going to do as you ask as she needs time to build up her sexual emotions. Un-like you, who is on the brink of insanity, this woman has you so turned on, she may need more time to become turned on, so that she enjoys the sexual experience the two of you are about to have.

One very Golden rule is not to rush your woman, let her take the lead and believe me, when she’s ready for you to enter her Vagina, she’ll tell you quick enough.

Be honest and open with her, she will appreciate your honesty, and she will be more willing to help you over-come your weakness of ejaculating before you are really ready to do so. Do be sure to do everything to her, that she does for you, as she too will appreciate the actions you take to make her have as many orgasms as possible. Lets face it, that’s what this is all about, pleasing each other and not only pleasing each other sexually, but being able to openly communicate your problems with her, will bring the two of you closer together, more than you can ever imagine.

Training your mind and becoming a true Artist of Love Making

As mentioned previously, the brain is your biggest sex organ, and that being said, it also means that you can train your brain to react to anything you want it to react to. You can train your brain to be under your control. Believe me, it’s no easy task training your own brain to accept things that normally it would reject, such as someone afraid of high places. If one wants to get over this being afraid, one has to train their brain to accept the fact that you are no longer afraid of being on high roofs for example, so the same thing can be said concerning your sex organs, and how they respond when you want them to respond. There is just one catch to all of this. I’ll explain it further and in more detail, later.

Training your Brain

You are about to make love to your woman. She has given you oral sex to slow you down, but you want more, you want to be like the guys you read about on the Internet,

or in the many sex books. The ones who can go for hours without ejaculating. This is where your mind training starts. Think about anything other than what you are about to do in making love to your woman. Personally, while I was training my mind, I thought about the ocean and big waves crashing in on the shoreline. You could think about birds in a tree, but don’t think about yourself, other than what actions you will take to see that your woman has the sexual experience of a life time. This is where you leave the other guy’s way behind, and become a true Artist in love making, by controlling your mind. Do whatever you want to your woman, or everything she may ask you to do, but don’t think about what you are doing. This sounds hard to accomplish and is, but with practice and lots of patience on the man’s behalf, you will succeed. At first I admit it’s hard not to think about the beautiful woman lying alongside you, and how much she turns you on. As with everything else in our world, with practice and lots of patience, you will soon discover that you can last more than ten minutes, actually time yourself and you will see that with time, you will graduate up to half an hour, and with more practice even dare to go an hour or more, depending on how much of yourself that you put into this mind training. When you can last an hour or more, you can now consider yourself a Love making Artist, and your woman will look at you, with new love and confidence in you as her lover.

Her very own love- making Artist. Not only that, but she will feel confident in your love making abilities, opening other doors for the two of you to explore.

It’s one thing to make love, it’s another thing to take her to a place in her mind, where she’s never been before. Ask her what it is that you could do for her that would really rock her boat, sexually. Ask her if she’d like a Total Body Massage, long form for TBM and if she wants to be massaged, use warm Baby Oil. As you caress her body with the warm oil, tease her as much as you can. The more you tease her, the more turned on she will get. Use lots of Baby Oil and make sure it’s warm to hot, but not hot enough to burn her. Actually, some women have many orgasms during such a massage. The massage does two things, and it does these two things for the two of you. It heightens your sexual feelings for each other, and when you will enter her Vagina, believe me she will be more than ready to receive you, as most women love to be touched all over, teased, and made to feel warm and tender in your caring hands.

Making love while she’s on her Period

Many men think this is taboo. Who wants blood all over them? Uck, what a mess, but if you know anything about women, you know that the week before her period, the week during her period and the week after her period, she is at her hottest. Some women don’t want sex or intercourse while they are on their periods. In most cases, this is because they think it’s dirty to have sex while they are on their periods. If you can convince her that it’s worth a try, I promise you; this part of your sexual experiences together will take on another new meaning for the both of you. What do the two of you have to worry about, unless a shower doesn’t exist? Be kind to each other, keep on training your mind so that you don’t ejaculate in less than an hour or more and you will have accomplished what most men only dream about. If you should happen to make love to her while she’s on her period, later she will thank you for the greatest sex she has ever known. Even squirting takes a back seat to making love to your woman during the first week of her period. The two of you should always remember, what you are trying to achieve, is your ultimate sexual experience so don’t rush each other, enjoy your bodies rubbing together full of oil or whatever

Dressing for each other

Go with her when she goes to buy new clothing. Express to her what types of clothing you’d like to see her wearing. Again, this goes a long way in the building of your relationship, and make darned good and sure that when you go shopping for new clothes, you take her with you. She may have a few ideas of her own, and again you have opened yet another door of communication, love and trust in each other.

The problem associated with training your mind.

You’ve done it. You are now considered an Artist in the love- making world, but hold on, here’s the hardest part, if you don’t already know what it is. Training your mind not to let yourself ejaculate was hard enough, now you have to train yourself to let it go. No easy feat I assure you. Lets say you and your woman have made love for an hour or more, and no doubt she’s getting tired. She doesn’t want to rush you, but at the same time, she’s probably thinking it’s nearly time for this to end, but for some reason you can’t let it go. You can’t ejaculate. Try, as you will nothing happens. You feel to ejaculate but for some reason way beyond your wildest dreams, you can’t let go. The reason is that you trained your mind not to ejaculate, and now you’re telling your mind to release, but your brain isn’t listening.

There are only two ways that I’ve found to resolve this problem. Have your woman take a shower or bath and come back to bed, fresh and clean and dry inside her Vagina. You don’t want her too dry, as you will hurt her when you enter her Vagina, so rub her clitoris until she has one orgasm. Then try again, and the drier she is, the more likely you will ejaculate right away. The other way is for her to give you oral sex until you ejaculate fully. This is the down side to the training of your mind, but most men would be willing to take the down side of this part of your mind training, rather than be the way they were in ejaculating too quickly. With time, you can train your mind to let go when you want, but as with the original training, this takes time too.

Knowing a woman’s body language

It’s really a strange world we live in, with so many insecurities, but that being said, it’s very important for every man to know his woman’s body inside and out. If you know your woman’s body you will never have to ask yourself if she had orgasms because you will know by just feeling her Vagina. If it’s not wet she hasn’t experienced an orgasm. Too many women have expressed that they are sleeping with dummies as some men haven’t any confidence in themselves, and more so they can’t tell when their lovers are faking it, and here’s another thing women may not know. Men can fake having an ejaculation as no two men ejaculate the same amounts. If before the two of you actually had intercourse, and the woman gave her man oral sex, or she rubbed his penis till he ejaculated, he won’t ejaculate as much the second time. Therefore, she really has no way off knowing if he ejaculated, or not. The only way he won’t ejaculate (in the body of a healthy man) is because he can’t because of his mind training or because he got so tired trying to ejaculate that he gives up trying. The woman may think that a man has had an ejaculation because a good faker can grunt and groan and make his body go stiff as though he really had an ejaculated. When in reality he didn’t.

A little about me

I am not a Doctor of any kind, but I am an Artist, when it comes to making love to a woman. I can’t say how many questions I’ve asked of women over the years, of my own love making experiences, nor how many negative responses I’ve heard from frustrated women. I’ve always considered love making to be the greatest thing since sliced cheese. The one thing I may have excelled in, over all other things. I’m a passionate man who has had his share of good women lovers, as well as bad women lovers and maybe because of my experiences in the sex world, I’ve experienced things that many men only dream about. The amount of women I’ve shared my bed with, needs not be mentioned here, nor the amount of times I failed as a lover, before I trained my mind as I explained earlier. I can say that I’ve been using this technique for a very long time, and even when certain relationships ended, if I ever wanted to go back to a woman just for sex, they rarely said no.

You the reader may say I’ve left a lot of things out, but what I did do, was cover the basics, the most important things that I feel two people should know if they want to discover great sex. Sex is supposed to be a fun thing, not something that leaves you frustrated because one of you had a lousy lover. You can take it for what it’s worth to you as a man or woman, leave out what you feel won’t ever apply to you, and go for the happiest time that the two of you can enjoy, while you are in each other’s arms.

Making love as though the two of you are actually a part of a canvas that will portray your love making skills and make the two of you Artists of Love.

When a woman who reads this article, she may say to herself, do such men really exist and the answer to your question is yes, they do exist. The problem most women have is finding the right man who will be open minded and want to explore her body, with zest and zeal, leaving no stone unturned so that she achieves, complete sexual satisfaction.

The man who reads this article may think it’s all crock. He may say he’s tried everything and nothing worked, but don’t give up on yourself too quickly. What’s mentioned above concerning the training of your brain does work, but for the man it takes a lot of patience and practice. If you aren’t already an Artist of Love Making, what makes you think that after a few tries, everything will change for you? Nothing changes overnight. Do be patient and reap the rewards that will follow you’re being patient. These rewards aren’t only for you; they include the woman you share your life with. There is no reason for the man to be sexually satisfied, and not the woman he shares his bed with.

In closing, what I tried to do with this article is make the two of you, man and woman understand what’s truly involved in making love, and hopefully in some small way I’ve made your love making experience a lot happier, than it was before you read this article. Maybe the both of you can find more happiness sexually, after reading this article.

Before ending this page, there is something that both men and women, should know. Sex isn’t dirty or cheap between two people, and if either of you think of sex like this, perhaps it’s time to seek professional help. If either of you experience the problems of not being able to have orgasms in the woman’s case, and not having ejaculations in the man’s case, again it would be wise to seek professional assistance.

Good luck,

Paul Faulkenham