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How to Introduce Bondage to Your Boyfriend

Are you struggling to tell your boyfriend about doing bondage together or maybe your too shy to tell him.

Before you tell him you need to know exactly what you what to do and what you what because when you tell him you two are going to have to talk to each other about this and decide what you both what to do.

If you are dominant (Dom for short) then you to show that you are in control in bed. A very simple way to do this is to pin him to bed by holding his wrists down lightly and see how he reacts.

If you are submissive (Sub for short) then it is going to be a little harder as you going to need to show him that you want to be tied up but you are not a play thing and that you don’t want to be treated like dirt.

A good way to see if he is into bondage is on valentines day buy a pair of handcuffs and say that you want to try something new in the bed and see how he responds. If he is nervous about it just try and reassure him that you’ll be there to look after him (if you are tying him up, Dom). If you are the one who wants to be tied up (Sub) then tell him that you would really like to try it and that he might have some (if not a lot) of fun. However if he honestly doesn’t want to try it then he doesn’t like bondage or maybe he just had a really bad experience in past relationships.

If valentines day a while off or you just can’t wait till valentines day then you could try asking what his fantasies are and then you could say what your fantasies are and then try some bondage that is based around one (or more) of his fantasies. You don’t need to start the conversation about fantasies and fetishes if that would uncomfortable or if it isn’t in your nature as you can lead the conversation about it.

If he does finally come around to the idea of bondage or is eager himself then you have to remember to take it easy and to rush into these sort of things. Once you both know that you want to do some bondage then you two need to have chat about this. You two will need to talk about what you both want to do, an easy way to do this is write down what you both definitely what to do, what your curious about but aren’t sure and what you definitely don’t want. If he is nervous about it don’t try and get him to do anything to extreme, for the first time I would suggest just tying up the wrists. The last and the single most important thing is to establish a safety word, a safety word is a word that when either you or him say and you both stop, it is used when the bondage is getting to rough, out of hand and/or too painful.

Once you have talked about then the final moment has come, to actually do the bondage with him. Remember that this is for both of you, it makes sense that both of you should have fun.

Have fun and remember the three S’s “Safe, Sane and Consensual”. Feel free to post a question at the bottom and I will try to answers them as soon as possible (if you want post your e-mail address so I can e-mail the answer to you).

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