A typical man will tell you that he knows how to seduce a woman.  Then you look at his wife or girlfriend or the fact that he cannot even get a girlfriend and you realise he does not know what he is talking about.  Unless a man has a gorgeous sexy exciting woman he cannot honestly claim to understand women and be able to get one.  Some men can chat them up and flirt with them for a bit but then the woman loses interest when he shows his true colours.  You need to know how to get the woman to agree because she likes what she sees and hears and nothing that you say puts her off. Firstly,  decide if you want affairs or a proper serious relationship.   Both have their good and bad points.  Maybe you need to know if there is any point to marriage?  and are affairs worth it?

• Talk to her as if her opinions matter
• listen to what she says.  A lot of women complain that when they tell a man something he ignores it when it suits him… i.e. if she says you are not her type, then you are not her type, there is no point in ignoring it and carrying on trying to seduce her
• Talk to her as if her feelings matter
• Show her respect
• Do not tell her that you want sex or that you are frustrated or that you have not had sex for ages, even if true
• Do not try to rush things.  Very few women will say yes on the first meet and if they say yes to you on the first meet they probably say yes to everyone on the first meet, which is hardly flattering, nor is it safe to have sex with someone you have just met who has had lots of partners unless you are sure it is safe sex. If you tell her that you expect to have her in bed within a few hours or on the same day you meet you will probably put her off. It also puts her off if you do not take her out or have a proper date with her first.  Women hate men who are obsessed with sex or who are mean
• Show  a real interest in her and her life.  Ask her about her hobbies, job, children or whatever is important to her
• Do not stare at her breasts even if they are fascinating and you cannot wait to get your hands on them
• Do not keep touching her or stroking her or staring at her, act normally
• Be chatty, tell jokes and laugh at her jokes
• Make sure you are clean and tidy and well presented. Women hate men who are dirty or scruffy
• Do not talk about being lonely or your ex girlfriends or wives.  Give the impression you have an interesting life
• Do not tell her you are a player who has lots of one night stands and casual flings.  She will not be interested in being just another woman you have used
• Do not make promises you will not be able to or want to keep.  Asking her to get married to you or see you again tomorrow will backfire on you if you are only saying it to get her into bed
• Be realistic.  If she is a glamorous beautiful much younger woman then you are probably wasting your time. Stick to your own league and type
• Be and a gentleman and romantic with little gestures like opening a door,  buying her some flowers and love notes
• Do not be slavelike where you let her decide everything and be difficult.  If she says she cannot meet you on the evening you are free be patient and arrange an evening that suits you both, do not re arrange your calender to fit in with her so that you can see her quicker.  Be cool and laid back about things.  If you make it clear that this is very important you will appear desperate

Even if you do not care about her opinions or feelings and do not respect her you are commiting suicide if you make it obvious and she realises it!  This woman that you are trying to seduce needs to believe that she matters to you, if you make it clear that you just want sex she will find someone who appreciates her and not bother.  Cover your tracks.  Do not give out your address or phone number if you do not want her to stay in touch, nor let her know where you work.   But remember,  a sharp and bright woman would not fall for all this,   it takes a lonely or gullible woman to say yes to being seduced so quickly.  You need to know how to get a woman into bed.

If you have known the woman for a long time… years… then you have to just be yourself,  and this usually works,  but you must ask yourself how come it did not work far quicker!  Read my book SEDUCE WOMEN and have a fantastic sex life.  at amazon.com and lulu.com.  download, e book or paperback.

I have been a private relationship advisor, life coach and therapist for many years.  You can see many more of my articles at Helium.com,  just type my name,  Carmel Brulez,  into the search engine bar. You can read a lot more about myself and my work at carmelbrulez.homestead.com.  If you have a comment or query about my work you must contact my office through my website.  I and my staff are too busy to check this site.