Is It Love or Lust?
by Is it love or lust… and does it really matter? Yes it does. It matters a lot and I will tell you why. If it is only lust it may be great for a while and it may even last a few years but then the fireworks die down and it becomes quite tame and you no longer go all goose pimply when you see your “beloved” or hear their voice.
Lust can be wonderful and give a lot of pleasure but it is all about enjoying the moment and has nothing to do with whether or not you love the person or are compatible with them or have things in common with them, you may not even like them! Lust is about physical pleasure and sex and how they are pleasing to the eye, move the way you like, smell the way you like, dress the way you like. But it has nothing to do with you loving them or them loving you. They may have awful habits that drive you mad, tell you lies and cheat on you, but somehow you still fancy them. When you say you are in love with a famous person or celebrity, usually a film star or pop star or maybe a beautiful model, this is lust, there is no way it can be love because you do not know them. Everything you like about them is about looks and the physical and sex. If you got to know them you might not like them at all but still fancy them.
Love is about the WHOLE person and you can only love them when you have got to know their personality, background and nature. You can love someone who you do not think is physically gorgeous because you might be turned on by their personality or their brain, but there is something about them that turns you on and draws you to them. Love is about knowing everything about them and liking it, accepting it and if necessary forgiving it. If you find out your partner has been lying to you or cheating on you then you cannot really love them because the person you thought they were turns out to be a stranger to you. You loved what you hoped and thought they were, not what they really were in real life. You have to respect someone to love them. If you find out your partner is letting you down, cheating on you or lying to you and you are still drawn to them that is lust and it is about fancying them, not about respecting them or liking them or approving of them.
When two people are in love they work as a team, you do not get one or both doing things secretly behind the other person’s back or choosing to be with someone else when they could have been with their partner instead. When you are in love with someone you prefer to be with them without the sex rather than with a stranger with the sex. Making love is about being with that special person rather than just anyone. Lust is about looks and where it is just a bit of fun.
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