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Today in America divorce is spreading like wildfire. It is estimated that about 43% of current marriages will end in divorce. This percentage makes me think do Americans value marriages as much as they should?
What is the reason for all of these faulty marriages? If you ask me about relationships in todays world I would tell you that they are at times extremely physical and sexually dependent. In fact a big part of why the divorce rate is so high is because lots of people are getting married just to satisfy their sexual needs rather than for the reason of true love, devotion, and commitment. Divorce rates could be dramatically reduced if sex was non existent.
If youve ever attended high school then you have most likely witnessed this scenario: A couple has sex, the girl gets pregnant and the couple ends up marrying for the sake of the child. Glad they decided to get together for the good welfare of the child, but you can see how the situation might have forced them in to marriage sooner than they would of even thought about it. The reason why they are now marrying originates with sex along with a mistake. There are lots of marriages that are existent because something like this happened. Unfortunately the divorce rate for this type of marriage is 68%.
The world is different from how it used to be. In the past daughters were watched over well and not allowed to have much of a relationship with a man until the two were married. In an article by Stephanie Coontz she explains how marriage is not valued as much anymore and how disposable it has become. Today I see couples moving in with each other, sleeping with each other, and generally moving fast in their relationships. No wonder many couples are egger to get married; they have already hoped on all the other big stepping stones, so its really the only achievement left to grab. I have a friend who is still in high school. Shes been dating a guy for about a month now, and they are getting engaged.
When couples speed through the relationship, not allowing enough time to get to know each other on a truly inner level and get to sex too fast, two realizations might be found. The first realization that these couples might find is that by moving fast they weren’t able to savor the moments and really watch the relationship grow. The second thing couples may realize later on in the relationship (even during marriage) is how incompatible they actually are once all of the sexual drive and excitement about doing something new is gone.
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Post CommentSandra Petersen
On October 3, 2007 at 8:22 am
You wrote this well and obviously are very impassioned against divorce but I think you drew incorrect conclusions.
I would like to point out that God from the beginning created sex to be a good thing but within certain parameters (marriage). If He did not desire for humans to procreate, why did He create Adam and Eve instead of Adam and Steve?
It is humankind who has degraded sex, but not all have. The abuses of sex within marriage come from selfishness and power struggles.
Your suggestions sound too much like communist China’s one-child policy and forced sterilization.
Paul
On October 7, 2007 at 2:39 pm
Shane, the world’s going to hell in a straitjacket! Less divorce if sex was non-existent!!!! What kind of daffy duck theory is that? There’d also be fewer marriages, what’s the point? Where would children be born? Are you suggesting some kind of society where we manufacture them?
Look, marriages are hard work, always have been. Just cutting out one of the pleasures of being married isn’t going to help. You say there are more divorces, okay but there are also more people. Modern society creates stressors that can cause breakdowns in relationships that have nothing to do with sex.