Lazy 21st Century Sex?

She could try the ‘back bend’, by having you sit on a sturdy chair , she then climbing  on to your  lap, facing you. Hooking her thighs over yours, she should slowly lean back, aiming  to practically lie on your  lap, letting her head and shoulders hang off the edge of your knees. She should then hold your hips and literally pull herself towards you as you  enters her.

Get her to think about the simple things that can build up to good sex. A heavy session of lip contact can be very erotic, because lips are extremely touch sensitive. Don’t let her talk too much about anything but what you are doing at the time, and minimize distractions like TV. Do your best to keep control of your passions, and try to stimulate her way beyond the norm.

Massage her all over, and spend time hunting for that G-spot. Try rubbing your body as provocatively as you can against hers, and take time over giving her oral sex, by using the flat of your tongue, and not the tip. Keep an ice cube in your mouth while you do it, it’s an incredible turn on. Be as gentle as you can be in all that you do to her. Most girls only like it rough a little bit of the time.  Tie her up, if she likes the idea, or let her do it to you.

Sex is power, and pretending to be helpless is very sexy, so don’t be afraid to experiment with it. Get her to touch herself in the places that you can’t get to because your hands are full, because it will excite her even more.  You couldeven try sex with your clothes on.  Thereis something intensely steamy about getting dirty with a semi-clothed partner, and 65% of women say they love the idea.

You could even suggest ways of getting herself back into sexual thinking by doing things like dressing up, talking dirty, role-playing, initiating quickie sex, acting out fantasies for you, making a blue movie together, having phone sex with you, buying some handcuffs, or even spending an entire weekend in bed together.

Tell her that it will do her good to be more sexually active for lots of reasons. People who have sex at least three times a week, lower the risk of heart disease by 50 per cent. Two or more orgasms a week significantly increases life expectation.Regular sex raises the levels of oestrogen in the body, boosting the strength of bones, and easing PMS symptoms.

A study of 3,500 people at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital found that those who looked the youngest had the most vigorous sex life. Men and women who have sex often when they are young do so when they are older. Regular sex helps raise levels of the sex hormone DHEA which lowers cholesterol and causes weight loss. It also burns calories.

It lowers blood pressure which makes your heart beat more efficiently. Orgasms help you sleep better because levels of the hormone oxytocin are five times higher than normal during orgasm. It brings you closer to your partner because of the intimacy you share. Orgasm produces a rush of endorphins which lift your mood and enhances well-being.

Don’t be lazy about your 21st century sex, and you’ll be the envy of all your friends, because you won’t be showing those symptoms of stress and tiredness that characterize the modern lives of so many. If you want to be content, be sexy.  It works for me.