Libido for Women

The other day a woman on Facebook asked the question why men can’t be satisfied with what they have.  And then se went on to tell how indepent she is – own business, financially strong, emotionally strong – and the wonderful relationship she had with a boyfriend.

She said she like that fact that he was older than her and that they had an open and honest relationship.  They did not need each others money or successes, because the were both successful people in their own right.

But then her boyfriend died and she found out that he had had an affair while they were together.  And that is why she wanted to know why mens could not be satisfied with what they have.

I answered her that men have the need to feel that they are needed.  They want to be the knight in shining armour.  I lightly showed her on the fact that maybe she was too independent and didn’t give him the opportunity to be her knight in shining armour.  She was not impressed.

I believe a women should show a mand that she needs him.  With that I am not implying that the womens should not be able to do anything.  To the contrary!  I just think that a woman that can do everything under the sun, loses a bit of her womanlyness.  Shouldn’t there be little glimmer of defencelessness?  That little piece that tells the man, “Here I am, take me, protect me and be my safe haven.”  Don’t we in fact owe the man we love that little piece of ourselves?  Does compromise mean the “giving away a part of  yourself” or is it proof of your love?

Isn’t it true that most extra marital affairs start with the third party that needs help?  I have found that it is usually when the man stands by the other woman when she needs a shoulder to lean on, that he gets that much needed opportunity to be the knight in shining armour, and therefor finds something with the other woman which he has lost in his wife.  One thing leads to another ….

In the end, is it really so wrong to let your husband change the light bulb, or to fix the tap even if you are capable of doing it yourself?  Is it a sign of weakness or is it a sign that you care enough to give the love in your life the opportunity to help you.

L – Lustful Delila

This is usually a difficult thing for us women to do.  But you must have a bit (or maybe a lot) of lust so that your husband/boyfriend won’t mind to exchange his power for a little piece of you.

I – Inhibitions

Leave the inhibitions outside.  Be bold, be brave!  Play and be adventurious.

B – Burn with passion

What more can I say.  Do you want to be a flaming Rose or a wilted Gardenia?

I – Intimacy

Not really a sex thing.  Make him feel special.  Tell him that he is your hero.  Tell him how strong and sexy he is.  Tell him that he is a wonderful lover.  (Not the best, because then he might wonder with whom you are comparing him)

D – Discover

A relationship is a discovery.  Try to discover something new of him each day.  Get to know him, in and out.  After all, he is the person you are going to spend the rest of his life with.

O – Open

Openess.  Be open for opportunities.  Remember that it is impossible to recover a missed opportunity.