Love, Sex, and Dating Tips
Abstinence says that sex is worth waiting for.
In the world that we live in today, the idea of abstinence seems to be an old fashioned, out of touch with reality idea. After all everybody who is anybody is doing it or at least so they say. It is true that many young people in their teens are having sex but that does not mean it is right or you have to join the party. Five hundred people could be getting hooked on drugs or entering a boat that will lead to their drowning. Is this any reason for you to join them? So it is with sex. Although most of the teens and young adults you know may be sexually active you can still decide for yourself whether you want to walk the same road. Most teenagers and young adults don’t know why abstinence is a good deal. I believe after you have read the information that follows, you will realize how good a deal abstinence really is.
1. Sex is better in marriage
One of the biggest lies that have been told is that when you get married there is no sexual excitement. The truth of the matter is that when you get married you have the opportunity to have the best sex that you will ever have without the fear of sexually transmitted diseases (e.g. HIV) or pregnancy. With communication, understanding and care, a married couple can grow tighter sexually to the point where they understand each other’s needs and wants and can satisfy each other.
2. 50 years of good sex
If you are 16 years old now, chances are that you will live to be at least 75 years old. If you get married at 25 years old, you will have 50 years of good sex. 50 years is a long time when you consider that you are presently in your teens or early twenties. The need for sex can wait a few years so that you can have the reward of a long, happy and healthy sex life.
3. You can avoid unwanted pregnancy
Many young girls end up with unwanted pregnancies simply because they refuse to wait until marriage. Take your time you are young, you have a lot of living ahead, you don’t need to put yourself in the danger zone and keep yourself worrying every month if your period is late or you feel sick. Nothing is safe when it comes to sex. There are many children in the world today who were born to someone who wore a condom. Be warned!
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Post CommentLily River
On January 27, 2009 at 6:54 pm
Are you saying that a woman who is not a virgin can’t pick up the broken piece and change her life! Look in the Bible at how many people were forgiven by God if you are going to get religious. You are just as capable of having the label of used property unfortunately. It is sad that some people in society have a hard time with forgiveness when starting rock fights with others from within a glass house. I don’t mean to offend you. I just think that you should evaluate yourself before you label others, and I truly think you have all the rights of free speech as I as long as you can deem yourself flawless!
Olu.Scribe
On March 26, 2009 at 1:25 pm
Good list and views in general, Great of you to step out on this issue. I have some views on the things you addressed though
@ NO.8
God will renew a man/woman, that threw away their virginity, when they come to him in TRUE repentance. I make the emphasis on come to him because some people never go to God to SPECIFICALLY forgive their sexual past and just expect all is well because of salvation. Salvation renews your spirit, but it will not remove the repurcussions of our past, nor the scars we cut ourselves with.
Just like an obese person that makes a choice of a healthier lifestyle, the consequences of eating bad food over all those years, will still manifest, in his health, until heart issues, fitness, diet, are addressed SPECIFICALLY.
YES, there is forgiveness, but forgiveness does not eliminate the law of “seed time and harvest”. We will reap what we sow, otherwise we never learn from our mistakes, if God supernaturally took the earthly consequences away.
The memories of sexual pasts are not going to be erased or wiped blank because we are saved.Neither are the memories the act was commited with or the people privy to our indiscretions. So the reputation may remain and the whispers may remain.
And frankly, by the time a man proposes to a woman, they both hav a right to know AT THAT STAGE of eachs sexual past.If it’s hidden and discovered later in marriage, it can breed resentment, and make one wonder ,what else they are hiding.
This means, that those memories can still flood back at any time. Consequences of our actions will always remain.
An issue of sexual indiscretion that the western world rarely addresses, is the spiritual aspect. Sexual relations involves a tying of spirits. Something this can be a demonic transfer, which can be with a person even after salvation, if not SPECIFICALLY addressed through deliverance.
As for NO.7 -Bit sketchy on that view,Here is why
We are not perfect. Any Christian that tells you they are perfect is lying to you and themselves.
But there is a vast difference between the child that falls into a muddy puddle, realizes it and gets up to clean up, and the kid that rolls in the mud and refuses to get out despite everyone calling to him, thinking “daddy wil forgive me”
“SHALL WE CONTINUE IN SIN, SO THAT GRACE MAY ABOUND?”
The presence of sex on our minds is not what will affect us spiritually, but if we INDULGE those thoughts and get carried away with them. The mere presence is not a problem, FANTASIZING is the problem. A fleeting thought caused ny hormones, if dismissed immediately is not sin. However, if we dwell on those thoughts, and fuel them with questionable;movies, TV and music, THEN ,you know you are spiritually affected.