Love, Sex, and Dating Tips
Abstinence says that sex is worth waiting for.
4. You can avoid std’s
Sexually transmitted diseases claim millions of victims every year. These diseases only come about through sexual contact. Abstinence means no sexual contact so you avoid the problems associated with these diseases. STD’s can cause great personal injury and even death. They can ruin your chance of having children and can cause a lifetime of embarrassment. Some sexually transmitted diseases are incurable so you may have to spend the rest of your life paying the price for pre-marital sexual activity or you may die as a result of this. A condom is rated as being 75 to 85% effective against pregnancy. You can only get pregnant a few days out of a given month. However, you can get AIDS anytime of the month. Remember there are a lot of people in the world today who have STD’s and they wore condoms. It is foolish to think that there is anything called SAFE SEX for a teen.
5. Sex drive
It is very difficult to control your sex drive once it has been aroused. The sex drive can be very powerful and once you experience sex, the need for sex becomes greater. It is much harder to fight sexual urges after you have been sexually active than if you haven’t been sexually active.
6. Find a good husband or wife
When you are sexually active, you are less likely to find a good husband or wife. Sexual activity brings deep emotional attachments and can produce an ownership mentality. Most teens and young adults who have sex before marriage do not marry the first person they have sex with. After the first partner, the sex drive is aroused and leads to several sexual partners.
7. You will feel better spiritually
If you have sex on your mind and you are a Christian, the feelings of guilt and condemnation will cause you to suffer spiritually and you will be less than you can be.
8. Your value is increased
In this 21st century, it is still amazing to me that many young guys i talk to still want a virgin for a wife. Even guys who are sexually active themselves still want a virgin. People don’t like used property. Most people if they had a choice would want a new car over a used car because new cars have higher values until they have been driven for a while.
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Post CommentLily River
On January 27, 2009 at 6:54 pm
Are you saying that a woman who is not a virgin can’t pick up the broken piece and change her life! Look in the Bible at how many people were forgiven by God if you are going to get religious. You are just as capable of having the label of used property unfortunately. It is sad that some people in society have a hard time with forgiveness when starting rock fights with others from within a glass house. I don’t mean to offend you. I just think that you should evaluate yourself before you label others, and I truly think you have all the rights of free speech as I as long as you can deem yourself flawless!
Olu.Scribe
On March 26, 2009 at 1:25 pm
Good list and views in general, Great of you to step out on this issue. I have some views on the things you addressed though
@ NO.8
God will renew a man/woman, that threw away their virginity, when they come to him in TRUE repentance. I make the emphasis on come to him because some people never go to God to SPECIFICALLY forgive their sexual past and just expect all is well because of salvation. Salvation renews your spirit, but it will not remove the repurcussions of our past, nor the scars we cut ourselves with.
Just like an obese person that makes a choice of a healthier lifestyle, the consequences of eating bad food over all those years, will still manifest, in his health, until heart issues, fitness, diet, are addressed SPECIFICALLY.
YES, there is forgiveness, but forgiveness does not eliminate the law of “seed time and harvest”. We will reap what we sow, otherwise we never learn from our mistakes, if God supernaturally took the earthly consequences away.
The memories of sexual pasts are not going to be erased or wiped blank because we are saved.Neither are the memories the act was commited with or the people privy to our indiscretions. So the reputation may remain and the whispers may remain.
And frankly, by the time a man proposes to a woman, they both hav a right to know AT THAT STAGE of eachs sexual past.If it’s hidden and discovered later in marriage, it can breed resentment, and make one wonder ,what else they are hiding.
This means, that those memories can still flood back at any time. Consequences of our actions will always remain.
An issue of sexual indiscretion that the western world rarely addresses, is the spiritual aspect. Sexual relations involves a tying of spirits. Something this can be a demonic transfer, which can be with a person even after salvation, if not SPECIFICALLY addressed through deliverance.
As for NO.7 -Bit sketchy on that view,Here is why
We are not perfect. Any Christian that tells you they are perfect is lying to you and themselves.
But there is a vast difference between the child that falls into a muddy puddle, realizes it and gets up to clean up, and the kid that rolls in the mud and refuses to get out despite everyone calling to him, thinking “daddy wil forgive me”
“SHALL WE CONTINUE IN SIN, SO THAT GRACE MAY ABOUND?”
The presence of sex on our minds is not what will affect us spiritually, but if we INDULGE those thoughts and get carried away with them. The mere presence is not a problem, FANTASIZING is the problem. A fleeting thought caused ny hormones, if dismissed immediately is not sin. However, if we dwell on those thoughts, and fuel them with questionable;movies, TV and music, THEN ,you know you are spiritually affected.