Married Men Who Cheat

I have been a relationship expert and life coach for many years.  I know how a man’s brain works.  I have also,  unfortunately, had a lot of married men and men in relationships trying it on with me!  One thing all of these men have in common is that they do not respect or love their partner.  They stay with their partner because of duty, fear of being alone, sex, money, the children or scared of arguments, but it is not love.  They usually do not understand or respect women at all and are useless at relationships.  This is why they get into pointless relationships and instead of sorting them out think that playing around behind their partner`s back is the answer.

So, why do these men want to cheat?  Some of them do not feel loved by their wife, others are players. Some seek love others seek fantastic sex.   Many of them are seeking sex affairs.

Some married men live in a total dream world.  Even though they cannot get the relationship with their wife right, and their wife does not fancy them, they get it into their head that all women need them for sex.  It seems to escape their notice that there are millions of nicer and more available women on the planet that any woman can choose!!   They forget that women see love and sex differently to men. 

Really these men would not need to sneak around if they knew how to get orgasmic sex,   how to get a woman into bed and hot sex.   If a man knew how to get a woman to love him he would be happy with one woman, the one he already has.

Months ago I had a jobbing gardener doing the rounds near my house.  He was old, scruffy and nothing to look at, he had no personality and was virtually illiterate.  He told me he was desperate for money so now working as a gardener who pulls out weeds, prunes rose bushes and mows lawns.  He then told me he fancies me and likes me and a few days later returned with a small bunch of flowers.  He told me he does not have time to take me out or come in for a proper chat but he is looking for someone to come and see for sex.  And he wanted me to pay him his hourly rate for gardening,  to have him here,  then be in bed with him while he is being paid to do the gardening.  The rate he wanted for his gardening was twice as much as any other gardener around here charges,  so that was ridiculous.  But why would anyone pay him to do work and then have him in bed while he is being paid?  Why would anyone want someone who is old and scruffy?  Why would anyone want someone who cannot be bothered to ask the woman out on dates and have a proper relationship with her?  What he was looking for was something where it was all take take take and nothing in it for the woman and the woman just being short changed all of the time.   I told him that there is a brothel 5 minutes down the road and he got annoyed and said that he does not want to go and pay for casual sex.  Tough.  Most men have to pay for casual sex,  and as he is old and scruffy he is more likely to need to.  He then lectured me that there are lots of women gagging for sex and desperate for the sort of offer he is making.  Rubbish.  If that was true he would have already found someone.  And, anyway, any woman who is into casual sex with strangers…. if she has a brain… charges a lot… she does not conveniently jump into bed with strangers who only want her for sex for free just because they are too mean to pay.