Myths About Breach of Faith, When We are Deceiving

Unfortunately, infidelity is an indispensable “back side” of human relations. Almost no one is safe from what he once loved one will not change. American scientists researching the phenomenon for a long time, argue that people often misunderstand what is cheating and where her wait, reports Washington Post.

The American psychologist Erik Anderson interviewed over 300 people from the U.S. and Europe for what they consider a betrayal, and on what grounds determine changes they loved one or not. Participated in the study as representatives of the traditional sexual orientation, and homosexuals of both sexes aged 20 to 50 years. That’s with any errors, according to scientists, the most commonly faced by people who speak about the changes:

If you really love your partner, you will not change him

Perhaps this is the most unpleasant confusion regarding treason. It is believed that loyalty – is a litmus test of relations. It is believed that love always involves loyalty, and vice versa. According to a study by Anderson, there are cases when people are close to each other changed, not because the fire died out among them, but only because of the desire to get a new sexual experience with another partner. Typically, this kind of betrayal prevalent among young people under the age of 30 years. According to the psychologist study, about 78% of men have changed their girls, and only a few of them said they did so because they no longer love their partner.

The concept of “treason” all people interpret the same

This statement might be true in the 1950s. Then it was thought that cheating – this is when one member of a couple enters into an intimate relationship with a third person. Of course, this definition is true today, but with the active introduction of the Internet in daily life, its boundaries expanded, says Eric Anderson. So many young people believe that if their loved one is involved with someone on the Internet, virtual sex, sitting in an erotic chat and even watched porn – then it is treason. A striking example of this “modern infidelity” is an outrageous act of American politics, Anthony Weiner, who flirted with the unfamiliar girl via Twitter. Many study participants felt that this was a betrayal.

The more saturated your sex life with your partner, the less chance of betrayal

As the results of research by Eric Anderson, it is not. Most of the participants in a survey conducted by a psychologist, admitted that cheated on their partners, even after several years of living together. At the same time none of them could not complain about the lack of sex. Just people came to what they wanted to have sex with someone else other than his regular partner. Typically, such an affair on the side does not mean by a mental infidelity, but some relationships as a result of searching for new experiences one of the partners is not yet ended in the most prosperous way.

Married people rarely change their favorite

In 1991, a sexologist Shere Hite found that 70% of married women changed their husbands, and in 1993 found that 72% of married men are not averse to flirting on the side. According to the University of Chicago study, conducted in 2004, about 25% of married men at least once had extramarital sex. So the wedding ring on the finger of your partner does not insure you against adultery, writes Eric Anderson.

Despite the fact that in modern society most acceptable are monogamous relationship, many couples do not want the rest of his life to enter into an intimate relationship with only one person. The American psychologist has in such cases, honestly admit their loved one that a “standard option” for their relationship will not work. Many people can not save a marriage, even knowing that their husband or wife from time to time, “walks to the left.” So, cheating is not always a verdict for the relationship, said Eric Anderson.